Practical Connection Exercises

Icebreakers and discovery games to reconnect.

Sometimes, a couple needs to get back to basics to rediscover each other outside of conflict. Playful exercises, such as icebreakers, are not just for strangers.

Seemingly trivial questions like "What is your current favorite flavor of ice cream?" or "What superpower would you have?" can reveal changes in tastes and personality that have gone unnoticed in the daily routine.

The "Truth Game" is another variation where deeper questions ("What is your greatest fear?", "Who inspires you?") are asked in a relaxed atmosphere.

These games, far from being childish, reactivate curiosity and dopamine associated with novelty, key elements in the falling in love phase that can be intentionally recovered.

Sharing the inner world: Music and books

A potent form of intimacy is sharing inner emotional landscapes through art.

The "Music Swap" exercise invites each member to select songs that are meaningful to their life story or current feelings and explain them to the other. Music accesses emotions that words sometimes do not reach.

Similarly, the "Book Exchange" allows you to enter into each other's minds. Reading a couple's favorite childhood book or current novel opens a window into their values and fantasies.

These exercises structure quality time focused on getting to know each other deeply, moving the conversation away from domestic logistics and problems.

The Weekly Meeting and the State of the Union.

To maintain the operational and emotional connection, the "Weekly Meeting" or "State of the Union" check-in is prescribed.

It is a sacred space of about 30 minutes, with no distractions or children, dedicated exclusively to talking about the relationship. It is not to discuss logistics, but to process the week emotionally.

It begins with appreciations ("Thank you for...") and then asks, "How have you felt loved this week?" and "Is there anything we need to talk about to feel better next week?"

Institutionalizing this space prevents the buildup of resentment and ensures that connection needs are regularly addressed, preventi