Choosing where to sit

One of the fundamental aspects of being a good listener is the choice of where we sit during a conversation. At first glance, it may seem like a minor detail, but physical location can have a significant impact on the quality of communication and mutual understanding.

In this session, we will highlight the importance of this seemingly simple aspect, highlighting its importance in social relationships.

Before selecting a place to sit, we should consider the environment in which we find ourselves. A noisy environment or one with many external distractions can hinder our ability to concentrate on what the other person is saying.

When we are in a place with activities around us, our mind tends to wander easily. We are exposed to a variety of stimuli competing for our attention. In this type of situation, we are likely to find it difficult to follow the thread of what is being said and miss important details of the information shared.

Conversely, if we opt for a quiet space free of external distractions, we can be more present in the interaction. By minimizing interference, we can concentrate fully on what the other person is communicating. This increased concentration allows us to better grasp the information, understand the message more clearly and respond more appropriately.

In addition, when we are attentive and present during a conversation, we are demonstrating that we value what the other person has to say and that we give importance to his or her message.

When we sit face to face, looking into each other's eyes, we create a closer bond. This physical arrangement reinforces the sense of intimacy and clearly communicates that we value what the other person has to say.

In contrast, when we sit at opposite angles or with physical barriers between us, such as a table or desk, it creates a sense of emotional distance. The lack of direct eye contact can create the perception that we are not fully engaged in the conversation or that our attention is on other matters.

In formal settings, such as job interviews, the choice to sit facing the person leading the discussion reflects our commitment to what they have to say. This physical position conveys a clear message of respect and recognition for their hierarchical position, helping to strengthen the structure of the interaction. By showing willingness to follow their lead in the conversation, we are creating an atmosphere of professionalism, which can increase the chances of achieving the objectives set.

In a more relaxed and friendly context, the choice may be more flexible, but it is still beneficial to seek a position that facilitates an open and honest exchange of ideas. Sitting in a place that allows us to maintain close and direct communication with the other person fosters trust and mutual comfort. By being physically closer, we can better pick up on facial expressions, tone of voice and other nonverbal aspects that complement the message, which enriches understanding and empathy in conversation.

The choice of where to sit during a conversation can be a subtle but powerful aspect that influences power dynamics and role perception between interlocutors. If we occupy a position of leadership or authority, sitting at the same height as our interlocutors can generate a sense of equality and collaboration.

On the other hand, if we occupy a more subordinate position, sitting at a lower level, such as a seat close to the floor, can convey recognition of authority.