Rediscovering personal identity: a step toward transformation

On the path to emotional development and personal growth, one of the most profound and transformative aspects is the conscious review of identity.

People often end up assuming that emotions they have felt repeatedly—such as apathy, hopelessness, or irritability—are permanent traits, without distinguishing that these only reflect temporary states, not true definitions of who they are.

Therefore, looking inward with a new perspective is key to moving forward.

Create a guiding figure based on values

A useful tool for this process is to mentally design a figure that represents the values you would like to cultivate.

Rather than focusing on a real person, the idea is to imagine a symbolic character who embodies the qualities that inspire you—for example, someone who acts wisely, remains calm under pressure, is fair in their decisions, or shows confidence when speaking.

By recognizing these characteristics as desirable, you awaken the desire to integrate them into your own life.

This exercise is not about copying an idealized model, but rather generating an internal direction.

Often, when visualizing these qualities, you recognize that they already exist to some extent or that it is possible to begin developing them through small daily gestures.

Exploring your authentic identity

After imagining the desired traits, the next step is to look inward: how do I describe myself? Not in terms of what I do, but in terms of who I feel I am.

This question, which may seem simple, actually leads to the discovery of deep-seated beliefs.

Some people, when trying to answer it, encounter negative thoughts that they have internalized over time: ideas such as “I'm not good enough” or “I'm a failure.”

It is essential to understand that these phrases reflect past experiences, but they do not define the true nature of the person who thinks them.

Emotions such as fear or sadness are not identities, but momentary signals.

By replacing them with statements based on strengths—such as “I am someone who tries hard,” “I am someone who cares for others”—you begin to rebuild a more realistic and compassionate view of yourself.

Separate your role from who you are

It is very common for people to describe themselves through their occupations or responsibilities (“I am a student,” “I am a cook,” “I am a mother”).

Although these roles are important, they do not encompass the totality of who you are. Therefore, it is helpful to differentiate them from your deeper personal aspects.

A simple way to do this is to write two lists: one with the activities you do every day, and another with phrases such as “I am someone who appreciates nature” or “I am someone who values honesty.”

This practice allows you to see that the real “you” goes beyond your job or the roles you play.

Choosing who you want to be

Identity is not a fixed mold. It is shaped by the decisions you make, the experiences you have, and the interpretations you make of the world.

By accepting that it is possible to redesign the way you see yourself, you open the door to living with greater coherence and freedom. Rediscovering yourself is, in fact, the first step toward growth.