Create, Connect, Elevate

The influence of the social environment

We are deeply permeable to our environment. Social contagion theory suggests that we end up resembling the people we spend the most time with; their habits, standards, beliefs about love and levels of happiness are transferred to us by osmosis.

If we surround ourselves with people who are cynical, who constantly criticize their partners or who live in drama, our own view of the relationship will be tainted.

Conversely, if we seek the company of people who are vibrant, loving and successful in their relationships, we automatically raise our own standard of what is possible.

To enhance the growth of our relationship, we must be intentional about healing our social circle.

This doesn't mean abandoning old friends in trouble, but actively seeking to connect with "role models": partners or individuals who embody the values and dynamics we desire for ourselves.

Observing how they treat each other with respect, how they resolve conflicts with humor, or how they prioritize their well-being, provides us with real data and evidence that healthy love exists.

These connections act as an uplifting system, inspiring us to improve and giving us practical tools by imitation.

Proactivity in the Pursuit of Excellence

The process of "Create, Connect, Elevate" requires action. It involves identifying what kind of energy we want in our lives (whether romantic, health or professional) and seeking out those who already possess it.

Once identified, we must take the step of connecting, whether by inviting them to dinner, initiating a conversation or simply spending time in their orbit.

Not out of envy, but out of admiration and a desire to learn. Asking them their secrets, celebrating their successes and allowing their "light" to shine on us.

At the same time, we must ourselves become sources of upliftment for others.

By cultivating our own relationship and well-being, we become beacons for others. This exchange of positive energy creates an upward spiral.

Leveraging existing relationships to create new experiences and elevate the quality of life is a form of relational intelligence.

We are not isolated; our partner flourishes mor