The Point of Attraction

The architecture of relational beliefs

A person's "Point of Attraction" in the realm of relationships is the sum total of their dominant beliefs, expectations and emotional vibration.

Often, individuals who are very successful in manifesting financial abundance or physical health, find an unexplained blockage in love. This happens because the point of attraction is theme-specific.

This point is composed of three pillars: specific beliefs about relationships (often inherited or based on past trauma), general beliefs about life and other issues, and focus on the present moment.

Of these, the most powerful and malleable is the present focus. Beliefs act as filters of reality.

If someone holds the deeply held conviction that "commitment steals freedom" or that "all men/women end up betraying," their sweet spot will be set up to validate that theory, attracting scenarios that confirm the bias.

Fortunately, a belief is not an immutable truth, but simply a thought that has been thought so many times that it has gained inertia.

Just as computer software is updated, new beliefs can be installed by repeating more constructive thoughts and searching for new evidence.

Sustaining frequency in the face of discrepancy.

A common challenge arises when one partner has a positive and hopeful point of attraction, while the other is mired in fear or negativity.

There is a myth that both must be perfectly aligned for things to work.

However, if one person is able to "hold their vibrational note" without being pulled into the fear of the other, positive manifestation is still possible.

The stability of a high frequency is often more influential than the instability of a low frequency. Let's imagine a situation where a couple wishes to move to a better house.

One of them is terrified about the economy, while the other maintains a calm certainty that the right opportunity will come along.

If the optimist does not give in to the other's panic, but respects his or her feelings while maintaining his or her own vision, often the solution presents itself in unexpected ways that benefit both.

The key is not to fight the partner's negativity, but to love them in their process while standing firm in one's own alignment.

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