Test How to get your children to cooperate

QUESTION 1: WHAT CAUSES US NOT TO OBTAIN GOOD RESULTS?

A significant challenge for all insurance parents is to get their children to cooperate
We aspire to small contributions from our children such as: tidying up their room or getting ready for school on time in the morning
In many of the ways we project ourselves, we impose a parenting pattern on our children that they do not fully assimilate and we do not obtain good results
We are under the resource of implanting obedience, but we forget something important for them

These imposing behaviors end up sowing in young people the idea that they are not serious enough to assume their personal self-control
We need them to know how much they benefit positively from family collaboration

We often present a pattern of orders to be carried out for our children with a certain authoritarian approach
It is understood that by age they owe us respect and obedience and we ignore their will and impose our own
Actually, this imposition is involuntary due to the false idea of losing power over the children, and the results are unfavorable
Young people need to be respected and we challenge them when we focus on the wrong power relationship

Even though our children know that we are an entity of authority, we must eliminate the power struggle in our exchange dynamics
Children see the need to do their own will, to own their own decisions and not feel ordered by parents
The first way they can show better cooperation is by respecting their moral integrity
We can create in them their own decision to include our option in their cooperative affairs

Inviting our children to cooperate requires a positive and favorable attitude for them, because instead of imposing on them, we give them options with what we want them to do, so they perceive and declare the right to cooperate
Let's tidy up the house, do you prefer to start in your room or help me in the kitchen?
When we give options to our young people, they see the possibility of being autonomous with their obligations and to make their own decisions
The other part we can get is their commitment in choosing what, how and when they perform their actions as they see fit

In order to awaken in our children a sense of freedom, we give them the possibility to feel in charge of the situation by determining for themselves the conditions of our task
They can spend time figuring out how they want to solve the homework instead of arguing about not wanting to do it
The important thing about the feeling of freedom is that young people see the need to be guided by the best option, when we are the ones who set the rules at a general level and they at a peer level
If we do not give them a real sense of freedom, they will hardly be motivated to cooperate voluntarily as we need them to, causing procrastination and predisposition to their duties

As we can see, it is not necessary to use imposition to get our children's cooperation, but to give them the authorization to a task that they must take care of themselves
The benefit of the idea of empowering choices is that it fosters in them a sense of responsibility and control over how they want their needs to be met
Allowing children to participate in social activities such as parties or get-togethers with friends, and setting time limits for them, allows them to experience how to manage their own time
None of the above

We remind you that we wish to have your support as much as you require it and that the activity is reciprocal
To the extent that young people feel us as trusted figures, we achieve voluntary cooperation when we distribute duties into personal responsibilities