Monitor your tastes

There is always a stage of life that we don't quite manage to control during the upbringing of our children, and it's normal, perfection doesn't exist. Young people end up thanking parents once they see themselves in the same place in life, as parents. We come to an uncertainty about how to proceed when they begin to show patterns of adult independence near the age of majority.

It is important to understand from their age that they are still in the process of identifying with their tastes and will go out and take from the world whatever interests them. As part of our mission as parents, which is to assist them when necessary, we must not neglect their steps or at least keep track of the identity profiles that integrate their preferences and tastes.

This is a difficult journey for both parties as adolescents pursue an ideal attitude and adults need to maintain the rules within the home.

Rebelliousness.

Adolescence involves for young people processes of biological and psychological change where they experience the feeling of nonconformity with reality. During the search for their identity, they manifest an attitude of rebelliousness that drives them to find their own ways of understanding the world.

The first setback we face when we have rebellious youngsters is the disinterest in our rules and limits. In this transit we parents must understand that it is their time to reinterpret the codes learned during childhood to form the most important part of their character through interaction with the contexts they face.

Unfavorable reaction.

The typical reactions of adolescence tend to be similar for all young people. The one that most affects the family relationship is the lack of communicative attention where they position us at a certain distance from their personal interests. They may come to think that we do not know their urgent problems, taking refuge in their own vision and maintaining an inflexibly hermetic criterion.

One of the worst reactions is the consumption of alcoholic beverages and drugs, negatively modifying their character and attitude towards lack of responsibility and respect for coexistence at home. Incomprehension is one of the most common feelings experienced by adolescents when they do not find immediate answers to their problems. They tend to be reserved for fear of exposing their inner world on issues such as sexuality or personal image.

Remaining the leader.

We understand that our children want to take their own direction, but we need to remain leaders. We must let them know their place at home as long as they agree to abide by our rules and standards of conduct.

Many parents end up giving in and neglecting the reins of home order when young