Test Make suggestions while respecting your child's judgment

QUESTION 1: WHAT ARE WE LOOKING FOR WITH AN ALTERNATIVE TO NEGATIVE DECLARATIONS?

In the education of our children we need positive reinforcement as a strategy to be taken into account
It is normal to panic about trying to get the right attention
However, we must have the insight to adapt to any situation and achieve better and better results
We facilitate an alternative to negative statements where we obtain the cooperation of the young people and guide them as we wish

We know that it is unfavorable to make negative statements, but we have not yet found the right words, we are in a state of blockage
Carefully selecting what we will say to our children in a situation determines much of how we engage in a coherent conversation
If we are under stress and have made the mistake of making a negative statement regarding their behavior, then we need to pause and intelligently reverse the information
Finding the right words may take some time, so it is advisable to act with caution so as not to damage their emotionality or ruin the moment with a scolding of other magnitudes

It is important to have arguments at hand to strengthen the communication flow with young people
When we speak to them with insecurity during the call for attention, it may denote that we are not clear about what we want them to do

It will be better to maintain order, it is good to cainar inside the house to avoid accidents; this is an effective way to address the youngsters when they disturb the order at home
We often insist on imposing a pattern of behavior that is distant from the assimilation of children, with a superficial or uninteresting effect
We need to get to the heart of the matter, that point where we can really change the situation from the young person's point of view
It is unnecessary to make resistance when they have not understood the importance of their obedience

The way of dealing with conflicts is mainly manifested in knowing if we are obtaining satisfactory results
Once we detect that we are far from a good solution then we must change the way we conduct ourselves to achieve better success
Insisting often leads to burnout for young people when the results are below our estimate
Each child is different, and if we have several children at home we may decide to use a regular teaching method, although in some cases we can be more detailed in terms of exclusivity

We identify that we are going through a communication problem, which involves our children and how they understand the rules
We need to solve the problem and sometimes we consider doing it from the limits
Many parents set limits according to their children's characteristics in order to be respected
Through this understanding we handle the circumstance with a role of greater particularity, to give solution to the problem in a definitive way, but the best way is to look for an alternative