Handshake to Avoid

The Crusher (Aggressiveness)

This is the handshake in which the person squeezes with excessive force, almost crushing the recipient's fingers.

Often, these people use it indiscriminately, sending an image of brutality and lack of consideration.

It is often used by people who are afraid of appearing weak and want to demonstrate their physical strength. It is a gesture of aggressive intimidation.

The Dead Fish (Weakness, lack of character)

At the opposite extreme from the grinder, this is a lifeless handshake, where the hand is offered languidly, without energy and grip. It is often accompanied by a lack of eye contact.

This gesture sends a very negative signal of lack of enthusiasm, weakness of character, indecisiveness, insecurity or low self-esteem.

It generally causes a feeling of repulsion in the recipient and does not inspire confidence.

The Sweaty Hand (Nervousness)

Offering a clammy or sweaty hand is unpleasant.

Although some people suffer from medical conditions such as hyperhidrosis, in most cases, sweaty hands are caused by a high level of stress or anxiety in the situation (such as an interview or presentation).

This can make the person feel self-conscious, creating a negative impression.

If this is the case, discreetly dry your hand in your pocket or pants just before the greeting.

The Finger Shake (Lack of Confidence)

This is a failed handshake in which a person, often out of insecurity, does not offer the full palm and instead "pinches" only the other person's fingers.

This sends a clear signal of lack of confidence or a refusal to fully engage in the interaction. It is a gesture that keeps the recipient at a distance and generates distrust.

If someone offers you this greeting, you can use your left hand to guide the other's right hand into a proper palm-to-palm grip, saying something like "Let's try it again."

The Stiff Arm (Distance)

This grip occurs when the person extends his or her arm as far as possible, keeping it rigid to keep the receiver as far away from his or her personal space as possible.

People who need a lot of personal space use this technique to keep others at bay.

It can also be used to signal disinterest in the relationship; for example, if someone tries to make a connection and the other person responds with a stiff arm, they are creating a physical barrier.

The Arm Tug (Control)

This is a particularly unpleasant an