Deepening Self-Complexity

The absence of feelings as an indicator of blockage

There is a widespread myth that pathologizes intense emotional expression, suggesting that showing excessive emotionality is a sign of imbalance.

However, from a deeper psychological perspective, the real pathology lies not in the abundance of feelings, but in their systematic absence.

The ability to experience the full range of emotions is the neurological basis that connects us to our higher humanity and to the environment.

When an individual represses, numbs or blocks their sensory register to avoid pain, they simultaneously disconnect from their ability to experience empathy, compassion and genuine joy.

Therefore, the object of clinical concern should never be the intensity of feeling, but rather the anesthetic tactics the person uses to isolate him or herself from intimate contact and his or her own inner world.

Disregarding the spontaneous generation of anger

In addressing dysfunctional dynamics, it is a fatal error to assume that outbursts of rage or crises of distress arise out of nowhere.

The human psyche is a hypercomplex network where each reaction is the final link in a long causal chain.

Hiding behind the excuse that a disruptive attitude appeared "spontaneously" is a denial trap designed to evade the work of self-exploration.

The complexity of our accumulated experiences dictates that there is always an underlying root that triggers erratic behavior.

Reducing one's own behavior to superficial explanations or justifying outbursts as mere unfounded accidents prevents us from getting to the genesis of the trauma.

Bravely confronting this intricate causal network is the only effective mechanism for dismantling reactive behavior at its foundation.

Adaptation to multiple evolutionary versions

Maintaining a healthy and lasting relationship requires abandoning the static view of identity.

The human being is in constant mutation, uninterruptedly altered by every conversation, challenge and assimilated experience.

The individual with whom life is shared today is not exactly the same person as yesterday, and will be different tomorrow after acquiring new knowledge.

This continuous evolution implies that living together is a perpetual exercise in re-discovery.

Pretending that the partner is frozen in the version he/she showed at the beginning of the romance generates insurmountable frictions.

Bonding success lies in embracing this fluidity, allowing both pa