Dynamics of narcissistic abuse

Definition and erosion of the victim's identity.

Narcissistic abuse is conceptualized as an insidious form of emotional and psychological maltreatment, where one individual employs systematic manipulative tactics to dehumanize, isolate, and control another in order to satisfy his or her own egocentric needs.

Unlike ordinary relational conflict, this dynamic is characterized by a progressive dismantling of the victim's psyche.

The perpetrator seeks not mutual connection, but total dominance, eroding the other party's sense of identity until he or she becomes a mere satellite or extension of himself or herself.

The impact is profound and multifaceted, affecting mental, emotional and physical stability.

The victim often experiences such a loss of autonomy that, even after the relationship ends, sequelae such as chronic confusion and inability to make independent decisions persist, as her internal reality structure has been colonized by the abuser's distorted view.

Warning signs: lack of empathy and control

Identifying this relational pathology requires observing specific patterns that go beyond common selfishness.

The hallmark sign is a structural inability to empathize; the abuser may feign concern, but lacks genuine emotional resonance with the suffering of others, seeing people as utilitarian objects.

This manifests itself in an excessive need for control and power games, where any attempt at autonomy on the part of the victim is met with humiliation, fierce criticism or emotional retaliation.

Unlike a healthy relationship where reciprocity exists, here the interaction is parasitic: the narcissist demands attention, admiration and resources (emotional, financial, sexual) without offering anything authentic in return, operating under a sense of acquired right that justifies the exploitation of the other.

Difference between real love and "love bombing".

It is crucial to distinguish between genuine affection and the manipulative technique known as "love bombing" or affective saturation.

Initially, the narcissist displays intense idealization, excessive flattery and overwhelming attention that seems perfect.

However, this is not love, but a seduction strategy calculated to hook the victim and create rapid dependency.

While real love respects boundaries, grows over time and remains stable in the face of difficulties, love bombing is transient and conditional.

It works like bait: once the victim is emotionally committed, affection is abruptly withdrawn and replaced by deva luation.

The victim, confused, is left chasing the il