Results of effective communication

No one doubts the importance of communication in human relationships, but when it comes to raising children, communication plays a key role, as it becomes the element that links all family members to transmit and share values, customs, expressions of affection, and everything necessary for children to grow up modeling a personality that allows them to join society as useful and respectful individuals, who bring benefits not only for themselves and the environment, but also favor the process of continuous improvement of the family where they grew up.

The seeds of effective communication

As a proverb says: "For everything there is a time under heaven, a time to plant and a time to reap what is planted" and when it comes to parenting these words carry the wise message to parents to select very carefully what they are going to transmit to their children, because only in this way a positive result can be obtained in them, in the future. These "good seeds" to harvest beneficial communication with children are:

• Be empathetic.

• Avoid resentment in family members.

• Be sincere.

• Cultivate trust between parents and children, which ensures that they feel secure in knowing that they can count on each other and express themselves openly.

• Always communicate positively, even in the midst of difficult situations.

• Be especially careful not to damage your children's self-esteem.

• Clearly define your beliefs about your children and respect their personal identity at all times.

Make the most of every moment

It is of great help to achieve a good communication with children, that parents are aware that every moment is good to share with their children the teachings, values, ethical principles, as well as the customs and traditions that define the family.

But their role as parents should be characterized by knowing how to choose the right occasion to deal with each topic, and never put at risk the self-esteem of any member of the family, even if they are facing a difficult situation or incorrect behavior, because these negative moments will not be solved by reacting aggressively, on the contrary, it is proven that a patient and reflective attitude is more beneficial and allows situations to be seen as opportunities for children to learn to be decisive, analyzing the problem in a comprehensive manner, helping them to grow emotionally and to be responsible.

When an atmosphere of trust and respect has been created in the home, communication between parents and children will be very good, and when problems arise, the conditions will be created so that they can be assessed from a broad approach, with long-term solutions that will provide the children with maturity.

The sincere and intelligent exchange of ideas will allow the children to live the negative experience as a learning experience, at the same time that they feel safe guided by their parents, receiving from them the necessary support to learn the best way to face situations in the future, becoming more responsible, and making their own decisions, because there is a truth that all parents must learn: they cannot live their children's lives, because it is up to them to have their own experiences, with all the good and also with the negative that this implies; that is why the best way to love them is to train them through the situations that arise, so that they learn to solve by themselves the challenges that come, and gain emotional strength, which will lead them to be confident and successful adults.

Reaping good rewards

Effective communication provides desirable results to everyone in the family, being the children the most benefited, because growing up in a home with healthy communication can avoid negative consequences such as low self-esteem, which can take a very high price, especially to young people, because:

• They can be dominated by the influence of the group which many times is harmful.

• Making bad decisions in important matters that can have unfortunate consequences.

• Being victims of vices, temptations and antisocial behaviors that destroy good opportunities.

• Not being cooperative or supportive adults.

• Being resentful and distrustful people, losing the option of forming good alliances for their personal development.

Fortunately, there are many experiences of parents who have been able to develop a more intelligent view of the situations that arise at home, giving their children the opportunity to grow emotionally with a healthy self-esteem, maturing and learning to be responsible, becoming cooperative and reliable adults, able to provide support and manage their own lives wisely.

These good qualities, which are the result of growing up with communicative and loving parents, help them to insert themselves in any new environment, where they are welcomed with pleasure, as they are people who always share with those around them the spiritual richness they received while growing up.