The Key Moment Model in Communication

Educating children demands from parents, in addition to love, an adequate preparation to resolve situations in the different stages of this process, a task that becomes more complex if more than one child is being raised, together with the increasing demands of daily life and work.

In order to successfully fulfill this responsibility, parents must find models that, adapted to their circumstances, serve as a guide for the family, prioritizing respect and love for all its members, while building a solid foundation so that, when they integrate into the world, their children will be successful people.

Learning good practices

Most of the time parents solve the situations they face with their children by reproducing the patterns with which they were formed and although the basic values of the human being do not vary over time, the distinctive sign of each era cannot be denied, that is why the referents that parents assume must be carefully analyzed to update them at the time they are living the experience of upbringing, taking into account that in addition to the material needs, the care of the affective sphere is of great importance in the formation of the personality of the children.

Countless parents are distressed and desperate because, although working long hours, they provide their children with everything material for them to enjoy comforts, the children in return only bring negative behavior both inside and outside the home. Although parents do not have an answer, a specialist in child psychology would surely invite you to remember when was the last time you went for a walk together, what is your child's favorite bedtime story, what do you tell him about his friends at school, and an endless number of questions that can only be answered with daily presence and sincere and sustained communication over time.

Scholars of emotional development in the infant stage always share with parents many strategies to promote the well-being of children, but they all agree in putting in first place the physical accompaniment, which guarantees the necessary affective exchange that nourishes children as much as the most appetizing of foods.

Key Moment Model

This Model, to work on children's behavior and their emotional maturity, first proposes an important question for parents, so that they can express their initial reaction when a negative situation arises with their children. The answer to this question will determine the contribution that parents can make to positively model the behavior of their children, because if parents are the type of people who explode in the face of problems, allowing emotions to take over, an environment will be created where offenses and shouting will generate a result of rejection, shame and resentment, and will provoke a similar reaction in children, repeating the cycle over and over again, as long as adults are not able to reverse this process.

If, on the contrary, and according to this Key Moment Model, parents are able to remain calm and leave a space for reflection, focusing not on solving the situation, but on assuming it as an opportunity for children to learn and grow emotionally, the balance will be very positive, because it is an old universal principle that we learn from mistakes, and children are no less receptive, on the contrary. Their young age prevents them from knowing things in depth, and parents are the best guides to show them how to act and behave, to measure the consequences, and from that learning to make better decisions and be more responsible.

When, from an environment of controlled emotions, children have the opportunity to explain what happened and express their ideas and feelings, even if they do not say it, they feel a pleasant sense of well-being and security when they feel listened to and cared for by their parents, the people they love the most. For this Model to bring good results, parents should always put it into practice, and consciously train themselves in modifying their way of reacting to the events of everyday life and put the focus of attention not on the problem itself, but on the possibility of developing skills for their child, this is very beneficial when the dynamics of their own life requires them to solve situations and encourages communication between parents and children.

Opportunities for self-improvement

Controlling emotions is quite difficult for some people, especially those who see the home as the place where they can express themselves freely without fear of unwanted consequences, such as in the workplace, where despite disagreements, people choose to hold back.

However, many overlook the fact that the positive energy of the home is achieved with the harmony that each member of the family brings.

If we are able to perceive situations with our children as unique opportunities for learning, we will create a knowledge-rich environment for everyone in the family and the children will feel involved in their own education, which brings great benefits to the dynamics of family life. When children feel loved and well treated by their parents, good feelings are generated in them and they develop an intense desire not to disappoint their parents, strengthening their ability to understand things and improving their behavior, selecting better ways to have fun without causing harm, improving school performance or interacting with others in a more positive way, as it is known that few things make a child happier and fuller than feeling the approval of their parents.