Key words of advice for your child

Raising children often makes parents wonder what to do and how to do it, because it is a beautiful but complex process.

There are many pieces of advice, but this one that comes to us from a famous book can be very useful:

• What to do? - asked the little prince.

• You have to be very patient - answered the fox. "You will sit a little away from me (.) I will look at you out of the corner of my eye and you will say nothing. The word is a source of misunderstanding.

But, every day, you will be able to sit a little closer." Then, as he said goodbye, he gave her another teaching: "My secret is very simple: you can only see well with your heart, what is essential is invisible to the eyes."

Applying this secret that the fox shared with the little prince to their parenting process can help parents who wish to guide their children to a dignified and prosperous future life. Growing up with the love and support of parents is something that every child desires, however, good parental intentions are not enough if they are not combined with intelligent actions and the right words, spoken at the right time. It is imperative that parents, from love, choose carefully what is best to help their children; the task is not impossible, life shows that many succeed.

Transmitting positive messages

Children need to discover the world and develop skills to integrate into the environment around them; therefore, as they grow, their actions are driving their physical and psychological development, but most of the time, adults see in the games they improvise acts of indiscipline.

The child who jumps, climbs and runs without restraint provokes comments such as: "he is very restless, he is always inventing". In reality, what happens is that they are always learning about reality. Unfortunately, adults lose that capacity for wonder that nurtures children's imagination and, in their role of caring for and protecting their children, they only see potential dangers behind their children's actions.

Specialists say that caring for and protecting children has to do with being proactive and creating a safe environment, free of carelessness that may affect them, while establishing behavioral norms that avoid dangerous situations, both inside and outside the home.

Parents who take the time to observe their children's activities are in a position to relate these actions to a necessary training and exercise process that empowers the child to enhance his or her future development. Just like adolescents, who in addition to physical challenges, can communicate in a challenging way with adults, showing a rebelliousness that most of the time hides an intense desire to test their abilities.

This whole process is supported by a communication that is not always adequate on the part of adults, so experts invite, again and again, parents to examine the way they talk to their children with respect and love, in order to provide them with an enriching experience.

Powerful words

Life shows that the best way to supervise and guide children's learning is to join in their games and allow them to make mistakes, showing an empathetic attitude and encouraging them not to give up. Words of encouragement have a magical effect when they are said in a suggestive, non-imposing way, as well as keeping the necessary distance so that they take the necessary time to test their knowledge and skills.

Many successful parents have developed a repertoire of positive phrases that they use in communicating with their children, such as:

• Maybe, if you try.

• Maybe, if.

• Sometimes, it works.

• Maybe.

• What do you think if.

Also the use of technologies brings a new challenge to the families of the XXI century, since there are many situations that, from social networks, break into homes. The old proverb that says: "a soft word is like a tree of life, but the one that expresses evil hurts the soul", has great validity in our days, and alerts parents and educators on the need to guide the new generations about the power of words.

The most suitable vocabulary

It has been proven that choosing the right vocabulary to share with children makes a difference in their emotional maturity and psychological stability, creating a framework of tranquility to incorporate knowledge and skills they will need for their adult life. Words spoken with intelligence reinforce in children and young people qualities such as courage, perseverance, resilience, while providing them with a pattern of parenting that they can apply to their new families.

When parents set an example by saying thank you, expressing gratitude, describing nature and using rich popular sayings, they help to form cultured, kind and respectful individuals, who are not afraid to express their opinions, but who appreciate the effectiveness of words spoken in time, well chosen and expressed with love.