Building a relationship of trust

Trust is a topic of vital importance for the formation of young people who are constantly discovering the world.

The relationship between parents and children is argued by a blood bond and an emotional bond, this turns out to be the most influential factor in the trust we build with them.

We know that their lives are in full awakening; if we do not want to miss important moments for them and wish to be included we must take care of our bond. A young person's personality is always subject to changes provided by the effusiveness of a context that to some degree we are unaware of, their school or their friendships.

We certainly do not want to be controlling parents, as this is an unfavorable effect on self-esteem and the sense of freedom that young people experience. Constant communication where we manage to capture their attention can help us nurture a never-ending process of questions and answers.

The first example.

As we know, we adults are the main reference for young people, therefore, when we teach and demand discipline we need to be the first example for them. We are planning to sustain a relationship of trust with our children but we have not yet demonstrated that we trust them, how can we be exemplary?

Throughout the entire training process, our children must know that there are limits and we teach them to live according to a schedule and prior planning of tasks. We set an example when we demonstrate that we are capable of meeting our own demands to maintain order.

Cultivate empathy.

When we educate adolescents, it is very easy to get angry because of their sense of rebelliousness in the face of responsibilities, whether they are situations at school or at home, and we mistakenly put the reason of adulthood above their interests. But how do we develop empathy? Young people avoid sharing their life experiences with people who do not behave empathetically; if as parents we constantly get angry or impose punishments we can be perceived as repressive agents.

We develop empathy when we show interest in other people's concerns and worries, so that a circle of mutual reciprocity is completed if they also do so toward us.

Judging our children.

Each person is different and according to the circumstances it is not favorable to be judged by others. Our children have the biggest doubts about many subjects and we are the first option to clarify them.

Making mistakes is normal at an early age, so if we judge our children, we are taking away the possibility of family trust. It is important to let them know that their actions are the way to discover the right path of reason, regardless of the mistakes they may make during the learning process.

Family time.

Spending time building family value is always a good way to stimulate trust for parents and children. It is beneficial for children to include them in family plans and to take their judgment into account when making certain decisions such as vacation trips or recreational activities.

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