The Consequences of a Wrong Model in Everyday Life

How the computational model generates imposing and authoritarian relationships.

When an individual operates under the "sender-message-receiver" paradigm, he assumes that his sole responsibility is to convey information clearly and directly.

This approach, designed for machines, eliminates the need to create mutual understanding.

If the "receiver" does not understand or act accordingly, the "sender" considers that the fault lies with the other, not with the process.

This dynamic inevitably generates imposing and authoritarian relationships.

The sender, believing his message to be objective and complete, sees no need to dialogue, negotiate or consider the perspective of the interlocutor.

He simply "sends the order" and expects compliance, turning the interaction into a unilateral act of power rather than a collaborative effort.

Impact on family, work and education.

The consequences of this model manifest themselves in tangible and detrimental ways in all areas of our lives.

In the family environment, it fosters the emergence of parents who impose rules without explanation and spouses who give orders instead of building agreements.

In the workplace, it gives rise to authoritarian bosses who manage through mandates rather than through leadership and motivation.

In the educational system, this paradigm sustains vertical teachers who limit themselves to transmitting data in a unidirectional manner, without encouraging critical thinking or active student participation.

This vision extends to all relationships, and can create everything from controlling friendships to a citizenry that perceives its rulers as tyrannical entities that only issue decrees.

The source of communication barriers and misunderstandings.

Often we think we are being completely clear, but the message does not get through as expected, creating confusion.

The IT model is the main cause of this frustration, as it completely ignores the existence of communication barriers.

This approach assumes a clean channel and a neutral receiver, something that does not exist in human interaction.

It does not take into account emotional barriers (such as stress or anxiety), cultural barriers (differences in values and customs) or psychological barriers (previous experiences) that can distort or completely block the message.

Not being aware of these barriers, we do not apply strategies to overcome them, making misunderstandings not a possibility, but an inevitability.

The Need for a New Paradigm for Healthier Relationships

Authoritarian dynamics, constant conflicts and widespread misunderstandings are clear symptoms that the communication model based on the simple transmission of information has failed.

To build healthier, more functional and effective relationships, it is imperative to adopt a new paradigm.

This new approach must abandon the idea of linear transmission and embrace communication as a circular, collaborative process.

It must focus on the creation of shared meaning, active listening, empathy and awareness of the multiple barriers that can interfere.

Only by recognizing the complexity of human interaction and equipping ourselves with the right tools can we aspire to overcome patterns of conflict and build stronger, more authentic bonds in all areas of our lives.

Summary

When an individual operates under the sender-receiver paradigm, he assumes that his sole responsibility is to convey information clearly. If the other person does not understand, he/she considers that the fault lies with the receiver, generating imposing relationships.

This model manifests itself in all areas, encouraging authoritarian bosses who manage through mandates, not leadership. It also supports teachers who transmit data in a unidirectional way, without encouraging critical thinking by the student.

This approach ignores emotional, cultural or psychological communication barriers that can distort or block the message. To build healthy relationships, it is imperative to adopt a new paradigm focused on creating shared meaning.