Emotional intelligence versus emotional absurdity

The paradox: Can EI become emotional absurdity?

Although emotional intelligence is a very valuable tool, a superficial approach can lead to what might be called ''emotional absurdity''.

This phenomenon occurs when control techniques are applied mechanically, without a deep understanding of the nature and origin of emotions.

The result is a facade of control that hides an unresolved internal conflict, an action that lacks the authenticity of true emotional mastery.

The risk of learning to control without understanding the origin of the emotion

The main danger of superficial learning is that it teaches us to control the symptoms without addressing the cause.

If we only learn to repress or disguise an emotion without understanding why it arises, it will continue to be active beneath the surface, looking for other ways to manifest itself, such as somatization.

Control without understanding is a form of self-deception that distances us from an emotionally honest.

Analogy: Building a rocket without understanding physics

Trying to be emotionally intelligent without understanding the basics of emotions is like trying to build a rocket without knowing physics.

You can learn to put the pieces together by following a manual, but without understanding the principles of propulsion and gravity, the rocket will never take off.

In the same way, emotional techniques without a deep understanding of our patterns are hollow tools.

The need to go to the ''evolutionary essence'' for true understanding

To avoid this trap, it is crucial to go to the root and understand the evolutionary essence of our emotional mechanisms, such as the stress response.

Our current brain still operates with a system designed for survival in ancestral environments, such as the African savannah.

The unique human ability to activate this response with thought alone is the key.

Without understanding this power of our mind, control techniques They fail, trapping us in cycles of self-generated stress.

Summary

Misunderstood emotional intelligence can become a trap, an "emotional absurdity" in which we pretend to control our emotions without really understanding them. This superficial approach leads to self-deception and internal imbalance, since repressing an emotion without understanding its origin only postpones its expression.

The risk is great: controlling without understanding may seem effective, but it does not solve the underlying problem. It is like building a rocket without knowing physics: it may seem complete,But it won't fly.

Therefore, it's essential to delve into the evolutionary roots of our emotions, understanding how and why they are triggered. Our brain continues to function with ancestral logic, designed for survival, which leads us to trigger intense emotions with thoughts alone. Understanding this mechanism allows us to use emotional tools consciously, effectively, and authentically.