Coach-client communication

Referring to a communicative competence, in an attainment of achieved goals, which go from the particular to the general, brings implicitly, by obligatory nature, that communication given between the coach and the coachee, the basic guidelines of attention and those advices that, if they are not familiarized, could detonate in basic mistakes. Assertive communication, makes its way between awareness, emotion management and knowing how to listen and empathize with the other. In other videos we will explain how to communicate and the social skills to take into account. For now, we invite you to be inspired in the right context: to carry out an effective communicative process between a coach and his client.

Perspective.

We recognize it as ¨discomfort¨, ¨disgrace¨ or ¨problem¨ and almost always forget, or want to forget, the total, subjective perspective that emanates from others about the latent conflict. A person will not tell you the hidden motive behind his abandonment of his training routine, or his diets interrupted by silly excuses, without making clear with every emphasis his own vision of the world.

Sometimes we read between the lines and it is clear that the main impediment to maintain the diet is willpower, the need for discipline and that someone realizes that your problem with food is caused by anxiety.

Perspective and reality.

The other point of the story, is if the perspective is true, do they not have willpower or is it that the environmental conditions reinforce their habit of compulsive eating, or perhaps it derived from a belief adopted from their mother:

• Eat today, that for one day nothing will happen¨.

• Reality is a reflection of what we think, the attributions we give to events depending on the experiences we have had. A 15 year old boy, with certain modesty and shyness in social relationships will not behave and therefore will not see a party and be surrounded by hundreds of people in closed spaces in the same way as a friend, who stands out for his extroverted skills.

Equality.

You are a coach and a case comes up to help a woman, a housewife, defeated in listlessness by the years, and you happen to be clear about it. You know what to do, where to start, which paths to choose. Would that make you feel superior? And if instead, a successful entrepreneur chooses to contact you, with a vast cultural background, would you feel inferior?

These states must be eliminated, coach-client communication advocates a relationship of equality. Together we are looking for a way forward. Neither I know more than you, nor you know more than me. I, as a coach, respect your opinions and beliefs that have brought you this far, but I also respect mine. That is the motto: equality.

Prejudices.

What are prejudices? Preconceived ideas, accepted beliefs that when not consciously discovered, trigger how we treat others. If you do not feel qualified to deal with an alcoholic person because of a certain rejection of lived experiences and emotional trauma due to family causes, DO NOT try or try to help this type of person, you will unconsciously make him/her worse.

On the contrary, if you become aware of your dislike to deal with aggressive people: first get informed, know, learn, look for your previous background and if you are so excited to change the world starting with you, do it but always when you know you are sure of what you are doing.

Coach influence.

Discerning what is right from what is wrong, or what you can achieve and what you can't, is not the coach's job. The coach does not decide, he accompanies. Without prejudice and placed in a position of equality, the life coach will divide the edges of action necessary for the client to internalize and question himself. The answers will always be in oneself, in our inner self.

Wanting someone to solve our life, like a magic light bulb, makes us victims and reluctant to actively participate in our life, and no, it doesn't, does it? This influence is very powerful because it is not a magic potion away from everything and your abilities, but on the contrary, it is in you and it is through you that both: the coach and you will be able to find a solution to change.

Assertive communication.

An assertive communication implies being timely whenever you point out a delicate point, transmitting the information in a concise, direct way, that can be adapted to the educational or perceptive level of your companion, directed to goals, clear results and as realistic as possible. Communicate and emphasize the intentional character or the motives that lead you to want to achieve that goal.

When we specify the "why" and the "what for", we are seeing the subject from within ourselves, being the protagonist of the process, making possible the optimal fulfillment of our objectives. Finally, we will exemplify some of the tips to avoid making mistakes in the coach-client relationship.

Tips.

• Do not make judgments: The client will always have a way of thinking different from ours, let's accept it to avoid criticism.

• Do not make decisions: The coach will accompany, not make a decision, accepting the free will and active role.

• Establish a differentiated attention: We need to experiment with new strategies. The method that worked with one person does not necessarily give the same results with another.

• Belief: The client's expectation that a coach is a God is uncertain. It is an ordinary person, it will not solve your life, as if it were a magic wand.