Despair

Despair is a feeling of anguish that originates from the impatience to see how a given situation will materialize. Despair because we do not see results as soon as we want is a very common phenomenon, which responds to the mismanagement of our emotions. Despair can have a significant influence on our state of mind, generating stress, anxiety, overwhelm, sadness, among other factors. Knowing how to work on the management of this feeling is fundamental for our emotional and personal stability.

During the development of this guide we will be addressing some of the basic factors that revolve around the feeling of despair and how to learn to work on it to prevent as much as possible the appearance of negative effects associated with it.

Sources of despair

As mentioned above, despair responds to the immediate need we feel to see a particular situation materialize. In general, this need comes from two main sources; situations that are beyond our control, that do not depend on us, either because they are associated with factors external to our will or because they demand the minimum time necessary for them to develop.

The second very common source of despair are the situations in which we can intervene but we have not had enough willpower to work consistently on them. The despair that originates from this source responds to a bad management of our energies or a bad mentalization on our part, since although we are overwhelmed by not having achieved some specific aspect, we are not willing to give everything on our part to achieve it.

Situations beyond our control

Handling the despair that comes from not achieving situations that are beyond our control depends exclusively on our ability to control our emotions. If we are able to detect that a situation is beyond our control and that we cannot accelerate it, even if we have the will to do so, the most coherent thing to do would be to work on our mental calm and tranquility to wait for things to arise in the way we want them to.

Little can be done with situations that are beyond our control, we can only work on our emotional intelligence, focusing on other aspects, trying not to be so aware of these situations until the right time comes.

Situations in which we can intervene

As we have exposed previously, a second group of situations that generate us despair, are situations in which we can intervene so that they materialize as soon as possible. What happens in this case is that we are faced with the impact of various phenomena such as stress or anxiety, this leads us to paralyze instead of acting strongly to solve the problems we have.

The longer the paralysis of our actions lasts, the more likely we are to continue to increase the desperation we have to see the situations that torment us come to fruition. The best way to get rid of the despair that comes from this source is to begin to engage in active work to resolve these situations as soon as possible. From the very moment in which we begin to involve ourselves in a conscious way in accelerating the processes that distress us, we will begin to perceive how the despair disappears progressively.

Almost all the anxiety that is originated by the non concretion of a certain situation, responds to the stress generated by not working on it as we should. We must be coherent between our desires and our actions, it is not enough to want something to be solved, if we can support so that the results are perceived quickly, we should not hesitate to do so.