Experience as a conditioner of your current way of being.

Our past experiences determine to a large extent the way we behave today, our system of principles and values, the criteria we form about the environment around us and the way we interact with other people. Sociological factors, including the social environment in which we grow up, play an important role in creating patterns of behavior that we will replicate in each of our social interventions.

That said, it is important that we learn to make responsible use of the knowledge we acquire through each of our experiences, especially the negative ones, since we should not let them interfere in our personal development or in the image we project to the rest of society.

During the development of this guide we will be addressing some of the basic aspects that revolve around the importance of experience as a social determinant of our way of being and interacting with other people.

Negative experiences

Negative experiences can play a very significant role in shaping our behavior and discouraging us from making certain decisions. When we experience a bitter experience, as a result of a discouraging outcome, this leads us to fix as negative each of the behaviors we have performed in transit to the experience received.

Fixing these behaviors as negative is a counterproductive element for our personal development, since when we are exposed to situations similar to those that provoked the negative experience, we will seek to avoid them instead of trying to find an intelligent solution to avoid repeating the same previous results.

Use negative experiences to understand what it is that has led to your results not being positive, not to create traumas that make you desist from taking new risks and trying to come up with new solutions. Keep in mind that the fact of failing in one of your attempts is no guarantee that you will fail again, just as past success does not guarantee future success. The important thing is not to stop trying and to strive to learn as much as possible from each of the experiences we receive.

Positive experiences

Positive experiences also play a very important role in assessing the way we behave and the criteria that motivate us in making each of our decisions. Each of our positive experiences reinforces our self-esteem and points out a path to follow for future events that are similar to the current ones.

When we perform a series of actions in which we have put all our effort and dedication, thus achieving their successful completion, our brain receives the information that effort and dedication are catalyzing elements of success, so that in future actions we should repeat this behavior if we wish to experience another positive experience. This simple example applies to more complex issues, involving a series of technical procedures. The natural human behavior will always be to try to repeat the same steps that have made us enjoy a positive experience in the past.

That said, it is just as important to learn from positive experiences as from negative ones. Each type of experience plays a particular role in the way we behave and the criteria we use to make a particular decision. Accept each experience for what it is, a way to learn about the best ways to achieve our personal development.