The importance of growing

Since you were three years old, estimating a rough guess, you have developed an awareness of who you are. You looked in the mirror and there was no turning back. You affirmed: "that child is me". You grew up, or so I want to imagine, you are no longer a whopping 40 centimeters tall, your natural bearing shines with more than a meter of height. Developing, on the other hand, includes the mental area. Our brain grows and this in turn causes better neural connections that favor continuous learning. Adolescence was marked by the search for identity and incipient lags of self-knowledge. Leo Tolstoy affirmed that growth is the first order to consider for the awakening of your essence and therefore we urge you to discover the levels of consciousness.

Growth.

What does growth mean to you: letting go of irrational beliefs or perhaps an accelerated process of spiritual expansion? When you began studying this course you may have experienced some growth or developed some skill such as introspection (being able to look inside yourself). Maturity is understood as growing in knowledge, which inevitably brings experience and assuming new responsibilities. What degree of maturity do you present? Taking into account if your role in life goes back to being a victim and complaining about everything that happens to you or on the contrary to respond with wisdom and Emotional Intelligence to all the obstacles encountered on the way.

Period of crisis.

Did you know that "the period of crisis" in the successive stages of life, is not negative? On the contrary, it denotes a leap of advancement from one stage to another. To start in the stage of adolescence you had a crisis (renewal) of childhood. Your group of friends occupied a considerable place in your social hierarchy coupled with the desire to become independent or create a space with your own rules.

Not going through that crisis period would involve, for example, never getting a partner because a six year old believes more in excessive admiration for his teacher than in having a girlfriend. As a life coach you will have to delve into the successive levels of consciousness of your clients in order to analyze their integral development.

Levels of consciousness.

Maslow, American psychologist, proposed in the 50's some basic needs that we always, in one way or another, try to fulfill. Barrett, a Spanish journalist, delimits these needs as faithful predictors of levels of consciousness. We begin with survival. At this level we need to fulfill physiological needs: eating, sleeping, bathing, going to the bathroom and also securing an established place to call home and feel safe. As a coach, you must be aware of the health of your clients and lead them to another zone of proximal development in which they feel comfortable, with personal tools: confidence, self-awareness, social awareness, among others.

Did you know that we owe much of our learning to our ability to share and relate to others? We are biopsychosocial beings. Feeling that we are part of a group supplies the social need we have as a matter of course. At this level I will also include the level of contribution or external cohesion and internal cohesion. Stop speaking only for yourself, as a coach, and start speaking for an us. I don't want you to change. I want us to change, do you see the difference? Many psychologists recommend therapeutic support groups, because when the voice of experience is shared, it helps to demystify limiting beliefs or roles and to consolidate mental patterns willing to change.

Helping others becomes a complicated task. It is not only to help to "improve" the dissatisfactions that generate their daily lives, but to give meaning and add value to them; we do not know the impact that our example can cause in much of the world until we experience it firsthand. Humanity, coldly analyzed, is WE. Have you ever witnessed a positive action and noticed how a chain of positive events begins to happen around us? Like someone offering a seat to an old lady on the bus and then in fractions of minutes everyone starts doing good deeds for each other selflessly.

Then we have the level of consciousness: transformation or evolutionary growth. To be able to innovate and design new habits, or to motivate ourselves to the extent that external conditions do not favor the fulfillment of our objective.

For you, feeling self-realized means moving up in your profession, but you do not give it the necessary time to devote yourself fully to it. You know that deep down you don't trust that you deserve that promotion and what is your excuse? My boss has it in for me or the promotion is not for me. People who act like VICTIMS will never mature enough, even if they are 70 years old, to realize that the problem is not the other person's. The problem starts with you and ends with you.

The problem starts with you and ends with you, others are merely a reflection of what you think, do and are. Do these words bother you? Does it bother you that I tell you what you don't want to hear? Whose problem is it, mine or yours? Stop being an "excuse with paws" and assume. Assume first for yourself and then so that those people you are going to help will be predisposed to do so as well. At this level of transformation, your client must take responsibility for his or her attachments and reflect more. It is never enough. Self-realization is acquired once you accept. Acceptance implies taking on that part of you that you detest and focusing your energy on TRANSFORMING IT.