Respect in interpersonal relationships

You say: 'I want to be respected' or 'I am not respected at work', as if your role were that of a mere spectator and without sowing anything, you should reap the seeds of desolation and inattention to your personal needs. Good joke, if you believe this. The truth is that respect has more to do with, how you get used to people treating you or what behaviors you perform whenever you see the situation offensive to you. Yes, the way you react will say a lot about the respect you have earned.

Also, let's understand, even if we were GOD himself, there are people who will not vibrate in your tune. Is it your fault? No, just as you like to play chess, there are people who see it as a waste of time. It takes the will of two or more people to do things right.

Respect as a value.

Respect, has an impact on that well-deserved value in relationships, as it recognizes the space of the other, the ability to appreciate and accept differences, highlighted by the quality of building harmony and well-being. Respect is equivalent to predict the influence of our behavior in the thoughts and actions of others, knowing how to treat as one deserves and not belittle our achievements or praise the defects or inappropriate behavior.

With these guidelines we can ask ourselves whenever there is a disagreement between the communicating parties: Have any of those present here lost the notion of respect? Do I still respect myself, even if my criteria are incorrect?

Interpersonal relationships.

When we refer to "interpersonal", in the term of relationships, we are referring to the intervention of two or more people in a communicative situation. A positive interpersonal relationship is one with the absence of "noises" that hinder the clear interpretation of the message and therefore misunderstandings in the understanding with the other, as well as the intervention of the appropriate channels to facilitate dialogue.

Intrapersonal relationships, with its prefix ¨intra¨ is ¨within¨, ¨within the person¨, the whole subjective world that develops inside a being and how it interacts in the activity and the social relationship, both terms inseparable from the whole.

Conflicts.

Conflicts result in disagreements. Conflicts of interests, family, sentimental, that emerge with a common ground. First of all:

• The establishment of limits: What do we mean by limits? A parent will have a duty to ensure the safety and care of his or her child, but if the child is already forty years old, the parent's boundaries will not include undermining the couple's relationship just because he or she does not see the child as safe. That is an example of how we overstep boundaries.
• The distortion in the management of limits implies, by force majeure, an inappropriate attitude, which has one result: the lack of respect for the integrity of another person.

Why is respect lost?

Taking things personally: You are not the navel of the world, everything that happens in it does not have to be against you. If he/she yelled at you, you don't have to be the one who caused it. Does he/she have personal problems? Did you do something to provoke that situation? Is the person projecting his/her problems on you? Analyze that first and you will see that many times you have no responsibility for your neighbor's anger.

Apologizing is fine, it gives you access to a self-critical image willing to reconcile, but apologizing for absolutely everything, whether you are at fault or not, is not. That denotes wanting to look good with the person and your respect for when:

• Listen: If you let them interrupt you whenever you raise your ideas, you are accepting, instead expose your displeasure to such an act. To be respected you have to be respected.

• Lies: If you get a reputation as a liar or that your word is worthless, too bad. No one wants to make plans with another person and respect when they don't know the truth of their words. Would you do it?

• Complaining: Venting is fine, but complaining always gives the person an idea of how vulnerable and victimized you are.

• Whether you talk about yourself a lot or react aggressively to events, neither will make you appear to be a normal person who deserves respect.

How to be respected?

How can you receive the respect you long for? First of all, respecting, accepting even if you do not agree with the beliefs without criticism, just accepting, as long as those decisions do not make you or your loved ones part of them. Tolerance is another important factor, derived from the act of accepting. If you accept the diversity that is woven into the world, you will be more likely to have patience with the differences that emerge. And this patience is implicit in the act of empathy. You understand that their differences have nothing to do, personally with you, but with their perspective and way of facing the world.

Attention, always pay attention to the context and the emotions that arise, if you just had an argument, it is not the time to scold him or make him see how much you disagree, let him refresh his mind. Act with the confidence that comes with having analyzed the environment and communicating with the right words. And if the situation overwhelms you, stand up and say, "Enough is enough. Do not let yourself continue to be invaded by events or people that put you on edge, believe it or not, my friend, you are important and I repeat, if you do not respect yourself, guess what? No one around you will have the slightest consideration for the ground you walk on.