The meaning we assign to our experiences

We are constantly providing and receiving meaning from the media in which we interact and mainly from the actions that generate change. Personal experience is marked by relevant events that bring us both wellbeing and discomfort. Its meaning is associated with the emotion that the event causes us, making us remember with the mark of its impact on us. Our emotions are usually conditioned by experiences, but we can also change the way we see them and learn these experiences with the best control of what we want to feel.

Past experiences.

We always go back to the roots of this tremendous conflict called past, in it remains our memory that we carry as a DNA. Our apprehensive formation makes what we assign as memory everything related to us and our context, that is to say our arsenal of experiences. We attribute meaning to all of them; our first lesson, the first reactions of recognizing danger and the calm of not knowing why things exist. Is it only in this labyrinth that we have the idea of experience?

This phenomenon interpolates from past to future anxiety where human instinct drives us to make a difference. We are then said to have experience. By understanding this we can recognize the value of experience in others and those who are still in the middle of the road. Experience activates in us the capacity for leadership in the face of involuntary handling of situations in our present; past already. As such to use it with its properties we know we need to assume this leadership posture first in our lives.

Negative experiences.

We live in the midst of the constant barrage of events; but what meaning do we give to our experience? our first conscious steps. We can see it from death, when a wild animal dies, it serves as food for other species; the evolutionary chain teaches us that nothing has to be eternal and what ends on one side begins on another. In this way, we move away from the idea of attachment to negative experiences and give more value to the need for change in us, even if it is small and imperceptible.

Negative experiences hurt within our emotionality because of the tragic charge that the psyche gives to the resistance we make to change. The idea is to take refuge in the pain of the event, because we fall into a comfort zone that we usually call suffering, and our decisions begin to be around the negative of our experience. We assign the character of negative experience when it represents a loss or lack; but the balance of life takes care of something instead, whether material or symbolic, the experience.

Positive experiences.

This is the part we all like, we live it from the self-conditioned or induced sensation that everything inside and outside of us is in order. In this positive state where the experience develops, there are also constant changes but we value differently what it brings us. We gain in emotionality and perhaps the knowledge is taken from an attitude where we understand that we deserve those changes to feel that we grow and expand; then, is there only growth in good experiences? An undesired experience represents as much knowledge as a positive experience. Only in the latter we do not act with drama and therefore there is no resistance and this is a state of positive experience.

Tools of self-control.

Reactions during the medium of experience are uncontrollable to some extent, the joy we may feel at the sight of a loved one; it is not necessary to use our tools of self-control in the face of the good feelings that are our most valued source of spiritual nourishment. Now, negative events are the ones that trigger the most affecting changes and in this field of experience we activate forms of self-control as a means of defense. To be alert to the sensation of danger, or to know when we are close to experiencing the sensation of the end that provokes transformations in our way of understanding and assuming reality. In order to get through life unscathed, human beings need to know that they h