Reaction to suffering

The management of emotions and the way in which we learn to manage the different situations that can generate discomfort and suffering, is essential when it comes to maintaining certain stability and progress in the actions we perform every day. Things do not always turn out as we expect and we are not all equally able to deal with the problems that arise, this can trigger the emergence of phenomena such as depression, anxiety and stress.

We cannot control situations that do not depend on us, but it is possible to learn to react to them in a more positive way, allowing us to recover emotionally faster.

During the development of this guide we will be addressing some of the most important elements that revolve around the feeling of suffering and how to learn to react to it.

Taking a break to regain strength

Suffering is a complex sensation to manage, because it is accompanied by many other emotional phenomena that threaten our stability and progress. Suffering is equated to physical pain, but it originates in our emotional side. Stress, burden, sadness, listlessness, are effects derived from it. Self-demanding too much at times when we are not in optimal conditions, can be counterproductive when it comes to emotionally recompose ourselves.

In the same way that our body needs time to heal, our mind also needs its space and rest to return to its normal state. If you feel you need it, try to take enough time to make progress in the attempt to return to a stable emotional state.

Rest without neglecting the essential aspects of your life.

The above recommendation should not lead us to believe that resting or taking time to heal means disconnecting from the world completely. When we seek to recompose ourselves, what we are doing is postponing those tasks or concerns that alter our mental well-being and that do not require our attention in an imminent manner. Focus only on the essential aspects of your life, those that you cannot neglect. This will help you save energy and focus your attention on the things that are truly important.

Neglecting these essential aspects, because you do not feel like facing them, would be detrimental to your emotional state in the long run, since it would result in the appearance of new problems and consequently in the accumulation of more stress.

Do not feel bad about your emotional state

Many people come to feel guilty for not being able to recompose their emotional state, while sadness predominates and they cannot cheer up, they think they are to blame for how they feel. This usually ends up increasing the pressure even more, causing negative effects. You do not have to feel bad about your emotional state, in the same way that you could not feel bad about having a pain in your arm because of a blow received.

While it is true that we must do our part to counteract the pain and not victimize ourselves excessively, it is necessary that you learn to take care of yourself and also look after your interests. If your mood is bad, you may just need to accept it as it is while your brain takes enough strength to adapt to reality and assimilate the wounds received.

Emotional healing is a mixture of time, involvement on our part, acceptance and rest. The more negative experiences we have, the more prepared we will be to react to future situations that may cause us suffering.