Being a helpful person

Today we will work on a concept linked to the helping process: service, in the relationship mediated by the coach.

What is a helpful person? Does the term helpful differ from being servile? Can you be a good coach without the instinct or vocation to help others, selflessly and with a rewarding result?

In this video we will explore two main questions: Why be helpful? And, how do you identify a helpful person? In an increasingly chaotic world, we need good faith, solidarity and pure energy to help, without losing motivation along the way. A helpful person will always be respected and valued for his or her integrity.

Service as a value.

What is a value? A quality or aptitude that governs our behavior. Why can't you mistreat a dog? The values that define you prevent you from doing so. A value is an ethical or moral constancy that is instilled from childhood and developed over the years.

When your mother scolded you for speaking badly to her, she was training you, without knowing it, to understand the ethical sense and to establish a behavior as: good or bad. Service becomes a value to the extent that we offer a valuable space, a reflection of our identity, to every person. If you help others, you will help yourself by generating positive and pleasant emotions for the common good.

What is a helpful person?

A helpful person is identified through the following characteristics. Analyze if you possess more than one of the elements shown below:

• They are faithful observers of the needs of others.

• They look at the conditions that the person possesses, in order to help.

• They analyze if they have the personal tools.

• They are spontaneous, they help without noticing the consequences.

• They have an attitude linked to solidarity or altruism.

• They present a collaborative behavior.

• Sense of gratification when they help others.

• They do not expect a response or benefits.

Not being servile.

It is very important not to confuse your position of being helpful with being servile, a helpful person will not expect anything in return but a servile person does, the latter will not have human rights, will "drag" to meet the needs of others before their own.

A helpful person understands the limit, does not allow himself to be pushed around, helps as long as the other person is willing to receive, keeps his word and is satisfied with a positive end result, rather than with the efforts made to achieve it. He enjoys the process, will respect your rights and will take into account your needs, always approaching it from the point of helping others.

Why be helpful?

How much does experience influence our attitude? Quite a lot. At one time you helped many people selflessly, but they always ended up criticizing you or acting badly towards you. You didn't look good with them! You give your heart and they crush it right under your nose to feed it to the monkeys. Have you ever felt that feeling of helplessness or anger?

Let me tell you, synchronicities happen. What is this? You start a diet and all the people around you start calling you ¨fat¨, they hadn't told you until the exact moment you went on a diet. Cruel mockery of fate, it's like a reaction to a new habit: Are you sure you want to diet?

No, I'm not saying this to make you give up, but to tell you that it's WORTH IT. Why? You see, by focusing on a problem, your body releases stress-related hormones that generate extreme tension. If you take a minute of your time to say something positive to someone, this stressful connection dissipates a little because you are "activating" the hormone of happiness and human contact. If you have tired eyesight, it may make you want to vomit or get a headache.

If you start to laugh or expose yourself to funny situations, this headache, yes, it will still exist but it will pass to a second or third plane, because at that moment your attention is not on the pain, it is "being distracted".

Benefits.

A person who is fully aware of providing help obtains enormous benefits that allow him to be a better person and attract more positive things to his life, among them are:

• Feeling grateful, thanking for things you don't have yet and instead focusing on what you have already achieved gives you the feeling of living in the present and avoids rethinking or ruminating on worries. Not to mention the happiness it causes, the impact it has on every life, and inspiring by example. A helpful person brings implicit self-confidence as standard, thinking about good things and giving himself to others, is admired and therefore trusts more, reaching, in some cases, to possess the skill of leader.