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Having confidence in ourselves, in our abilities and in the actions we take is essential if we wish to project an image of security. Acting with confidence is nothing more than taking responsibility for the decisions we make, this does not imply that we must be the best or that we cannot make mistakes, but that we are willing to face each situation with the right attitude.

Self-confidence is difficult to acquire and easy to lose, in the face of setbacks we can become too cruel with the way we judge ourselves, leading to a decline in our self-esteem and fear when undertaking new tasks.

During the development of this guide we will be talking about the need to build confidence in us, some elements that influence it and how to prevent the various adversities of everyday life play against us in this regard.

Elements that influence confidence in ourselves

There are many elements that influence whether or not to trust ourselves. These factors are very similar to those that affect trust in general. If we entrust a task or responsibility to a third person and it does not have the results we expect, it is very likely that when we need to perform a similar action again, we will not trust that person to carry out that action. This is a natural reflex, failure diminishes trust, since we perceive the inability of that subject to meet our expectations.

The truth is that this way of judging the trust we have in someone, only by their successes or failures is not the most appropriate. The fact that someone makes a mistake does not mean that he/she is obliged to repeat it again, in fact, the most probable thing is that this person now has much more probabilities of obtaining success, because he/she has already acquired experience of his/her previous attempt and will know how to follow the steps avoiding to make the same mistakes of the past.

Trust must respond to other elements of greater weight, such as loyalty, consistency and attitude in the face of adversity. Learning to forgive mistakes is extremely necessary to preserve the trust we have in ourselves. Avoid judging someone for their failure when they have given everything they have to achieve success. You are not the only one responsible for the results, there are many external factors that significantly influence them.

Attitude and consistency

The elements that weigh the most when it comes to trusting ourselves or trusting other people are attitude and consistency. You cannot trust yourself if you are not consistent with what you do and what you want. Nor can you trust when you have a bad attitude. Whenever you have performed to the best of your ability you should feel proud of your efforts, because you know that the unfavorable result has not come about because you have not worked with interest, but for reasons beyond your control.

Changing the perspective of the way we see the facts will allow you to understand when something really deserves a disappointment on your part and when what happened is part of a natural process.

Take care of your self-esteem and maintain confidence in your actions whatever the outcome. Your confidence does not depend on things going right or wrong, but on the way you face each event and the mentality with which you handle adversity. Remember that you are your main partner, if you are not able to trust yourself how are you going to trust other people.