Identifying and fostering strengths in children

Parents play a crucial role in the development of their children's well-being, and one of the most powerful approaches to positive psychology applied to parenting is the conscious identification and nurturing of children's character strengths from an early age.

Active Observation of Emerging Strengths

From a young age, children begin to show inclinations and qualities that may be indicative of their emerging strengths.

Parents can "put on the radar" to observe what activities their children freely choose, what they do well and often, and what aspects of their personality begin to stand out.

For example, one child may show great curiosity exploring the garden and looking for worms, while another may prefer to sit and draw for hours, revealing different possible strengths such as a love of learning or creativity.

Even in infants, although the personality is not completely defined, tendencies towards patience, good humor or a marked curiosity can begin to be observed.

Putting Observed Strengths into Words

Once these positive inclinations or behaviors have been identified, it is essential that parents observe them and, very importantly, put them into words.

It's not just a general compliment like "what a good boy you are". It's about being specific and describing strength in action.

For example: "I like that you were generous with your cousin when you lent him your tricycle" or "I admire your perseverance in trying to put together that difficult puzzle".

Creating a vocabulary of strengths in the home helps children become aware of and value their own positive qualities.

This explicit recognition contributes to building a positive self-image and reinforcing these desirable behaviors.

Encourage Continuous Development

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