The obstacle of social comparison

The tendency to compare oneself with others is identified as one of the most direct and effective ways to experience unhappiness and discomfort in life.

This habit, deeply rooted in human nature, can undermine personal satisfaction and divert focus from our own path and progress.

Comparison as a Source of Unhappiness

When a person constantly compares himself with others, whether in terms of material possessions, professional achievements, relationships or any other aspect, he runs the risk of feeling unhappy and unhappy.

Phrases such as "the other one has more money", "his marriage is spectacular", "he has incredible health while I suffer from this disease" are manifestations of this destructive pattern.

Comparison, in this sense, becomes a burden that prevents us from valuing our own and enjoying our personal achievements.

Self-Focus as an Alternative

The healthy alternative to social comparison is to focus on one's own trajectory and evolution.

La única comparación válida y constructiva es con uno mismo: quién se era ayer, quién se es hoy y quién se puede llegar a ser mañana.

This introspective approach allows one to appreciate personal growth and set realistic goals based on one's own capabilities and circumstances.

If you are going to look at others, the perspective must change.

Looking "down" at those who may be in less favorable situations should be done with the intention of extending a hand and helping them up, not to feel superior.

Looking "up" to people who have achieved more should be for the purpose of learning from them and finding inspiration, not to generate envy or feelings of inferiority.

Consequences of Constant Comparison

Constant comparison is inherently destructive because there will always be someone who, in some respect, appears to be better.

This endless cycle of comparisons only leads to frustration and a sense of inadequacy.

The key to wellness lies in stopping hurting oneself with this habit and cultivating an appreciation for one's own path, with its unique challenges and accomplishments.

It is an act of self-compassion and realism to recognize that each person has his or her own journey and that happiness is not found in surpassing others.

It is about surpassing oneself and living in line with one's values.