Questioning the [fads] of personal development

The field of personal development often promotes ideas and expectations that, although well-intentioned, can be unrealistic or even harmful if taken as absolute truths.

It is important to adopt a critical perspective in the face of certain "fads" that can generate more frustration than wellbeing.

The Myth of Universal Singularity and Special Talents

A frequently peddled idea is that "we are all unique and special" and that we all possess extraordinary talents waiting to be discovered.

While each individual has his or her value, the reality is that, in many basic respects, people are more alike than is sometimes admitted, and not everyone possesses skills or talents that differentiate them markedly from others.

Accepting a certain "mediocrity" in some areas is not a bad thing, and you can have a great life without exceptional talents.

While we can all develop skills through effort, the innate "talent" that makes us stand out in a special way is less common than suggested.

The False Promise to "Achieve Everything You Set Your Mind To".

Another pernicious idea is that with enough effort, perseverance and positive thinking, "you will always achieve what you set out to do".

This approach ignores the fact that both successes and failures depend on a multitude of circumstances, many of which are beyond our control (external factors, luck, actions of others).

Statistically, for example, most new businesses fail, which is part of a natural process of trial and error.

The Demand for an "Extraordinary Life".

There is an implicit or explicit pressure to lead an "extraordinary life", full of exceptional achievements and maximum use of all capabilities.

This demand can be exhausting and unrealistic. The choice to lead a simpler or less "extraordinary" life by social standards is perfectl