Assertiveness. definition and distinction from other communication styles

Assertiveness is a fundamental communication skill that involves the ability to express one's opinions, feelings, needs, and rights clearly, directly, honestly, and respectfully, without attacking others or allowing oneself to be attacked.

It is somewhere between passivity and aggression.

Definition of Assertiveness

Being assertive means standing up for one's personal rights and expressing thoughts and feelings appropriately, while respecting the rights and feelings of others.

It is not about "winning" at all costs, but rather about communicating effectively and authentically, striking a balance between self-assertion and respect for others.

An assertive person is able to say "no" when necessary, make requests, express disagreement, give and receive compliments, and handle criticism constructively.

Difference with Passivity

The Passive communication style is characterized by an inability to express one's needs, feelings, or opinions, or by doing so in an indirect, hesitant, or self-deprecating manner.

People with a passive style tend to put the needs of others before their own, avoid conflict at all costs, and allow others to violate their rights.

Although passivity may prevent confrontations in the short term, in the long term it often leads to frustration, resentment, low self-esteem, and a feeling of being disregarded.

Difference from Aggression

An aggressive communication style, on the other hand, involves expressing one's needs, feelings, or opinions in a hostile, domineering, contemptuous, or violent manner, without regard for the rights or feelings of others.

People with an aggressive style attempt to impose their point of view, often through intimidation, blame, or destructive criticism.

Although aggression can allow for short-term goals through of coercion, in the long run it damage