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Emotional intelligence - life coaching
When I was in school, I didn't get straight A's, does that mean I won't be able to succeed in life?
Well, I have good news for you. Most of the most successful entrepreneurs, owners of giant companies today, quit their jobs or were laid off at some point. Very few have inherited fortunes, instead, many started with minimal resources and a good idea. An important aspect of their development was the application of Emotional Intelligence, a term we will break down below to apply to coaching work.
Earlier we mentioned this concept and its importance in Coaching. Emotional intelligence was coined in 1990 by psychologists Peter Salovey and John Mayer. It refers to the ability to identify and manage both one's own emotions and those of others, and is part of our cognitive ability to mediate interpersonal behavior. The term was later popularized in 1995 by Daniel Goleman, defining it as the ability to be aware of one's feelings, manage them appropriately, express them effectively and understand the impact of our emotions on others.
In coaching, it is necessary to master emotional intelligence to support the personal growth of our clients, helping them to know themselves, understand the causes of their main interests and how these influence their thoughts and actions. In a work team, a coach should facilitate the identification of common interests, foster emotional autonomy and improve the self-motivation and self-esteem of the members. The goal is to improve overall well-being through conflict resolution, promoting a positive environment for both ourselves and others.
Success sometimes depends on the organizational level achieved in a team. A good team gets better results, but there is always a leader, someone who is in charge of managing the well-being and motivation of the group, and that is the Coach.
Self-knowledge is self-awareness, that is, the ability to understand and recognize our strengths, weaknesses, emotions and impulses. Why is self-knowledge important?
It is essential to know how far we can go, what our limits are and what temperament we have. Knowing what makes us sad or happy helps us to act appropriately in different situations. This internal exercise is key to master our emotions.
Self-control is key in managing emotions. As a Coach, we face daily the emotions of colleagues or clients, and we must know how to release the emotional charge of situations. It is important to find a balance between what we feel and how we express it so that our opinions are taken into account. Self-control helps to convey the best possible experience for everyone involved.
At the beginning of the day, it is useful to take a few minutes to review our goals, using self-motivation, a tool that helps us to remember our objectives and purposes, and to minimize difficulties. Our emotional state is reflected in our demeanor and appearance, our physical image is also important, since first impressions are in our hands. Part of self-motivation is learning new tools to improve our situation and achieve our goals.
Usually, someone else tries to motivate us by highlighting our abilities, but we cannot depend on others to maintain a good state of mind. We are already our own company and we must keep it active and producing well-being.
Empathy is the ability to put ourselves in the other person's shoes and understand their concerns from a more human point of view. With it, we learn to take conscious control of the way we express ourselves, even when we criticize. As we grow in experience, we understand that our social behavior has consequences. Taking care of the work environment and the resources at our disposal generates well-being on both a personal and collective level, remembering that we all share the same objective and workspace.
