Economic violence: do you live in a 'golden cage'? - violence domestic family

Economic violence, a subtle and often overlooked form of abuse, can leave deep and lasting scars. Unlike physical violence, its manifestations are less evident, but no less harmful. This type of violence is characterized by the control and manipulation of a person's economic resources, limiting their autonomy and freedom. Are you living in a "golden cage"? It’s time to analyze the signs and seek help.

What Is Economic Violence and How Does It Manifest?

Economic violence, also known as financial abuse, is defined as the coercive control of a person's economic resources by their partner, family member, or any individual in a position of power. It is not simply about money problems; it involves an unequal power dynamic in which one person uses money to dominate and control another. This domination can take various forms, often disguised as "protection" or "help".

Common forms of economic violence:

• Absolute control of income: One person controls all the money that comes into the household and decides how it is spent, leaving the other person without access to their own income or savings.
• Prohibition from working or studying: Preventing the partner from working or studying, creating total economic dependence.
• Work sabotage: Disrupting or sabotaging the partner's job, either by causing problems at the workplace or preventing them from attending training courses.
• Requirement to ask permission for every expense: Demanding that the partner ask for permission and justify every purchase, even the smallest ones.
• Theft or embezzlement of funds: Taking the partner's money without their consent or using it for personal purposes without their knowledge.
• Accumulating debt in the partner's name: Opening credit cards or taking out loans in the partner's name without their consent, leaving them with a heavy financial burden.
• Denial of access to financial information: Hiding information about income, savings, or debts, keeping the partner ignorant of their real financial situation.
• Forcing to sign financial documents without explanation: Pressuring the partner to sign financial documents without explaining the implications, exposing them to legal and financial risks.

Warning Signs: Could You Be a Victim of Economic Violence?

Recognizing the signs of economic violence is crucial to breaking the cycle of abuse. Pay attention to the following indicators:

• You feel guilty about spending money: Even on basic needs, you feel you must justify your expenses and are overcome by guilt when doing so.
• Your partner controls each of your expenses: Every purchase, no matter how small, is subjected to close scrutiny and judgment.
• Your partner prevents you from working or studying: You feel trapped at home and financially dependent on your partner, with no opportunity to develop your professional potential.
• You do not have access to financial information: You feel excluded from financial decisions and are unaware of the family's real economic situation.
• You feel isolated from your friends and family: Your partner isolates you socially, making it difficult to seek external support.
• You are afraid to contradict your partner on financial matters: You fear reprisals if you express your opinion about money management.
• Your self-esteem has decreased: Constant criticism and economic control have made you feel insecure and incapable.

Psychological and Emotional Impact of Economic Violence

Economic violence not only affects the victim's finances but also their mental and emotional health. The consequences can be devastating:

• Depression and anxiety: The feeling of control, helplessness, and constant fear can trigger mood disorders.
• Low self-esteem: Constant criticism and economic manipulation erode self-confidence.
• Social isolation: The victim feels ashamed and isolated, which makes it harder to seek help.
• Emotional dependence: Economic dependence translates into emotional dependence, making decision-making and the pursuit of independence difficult.
• Chronic stress: Constant worry about money and lack of control generate chronic stress that can affect physical health.
• Feelings of guilt and shame: The victim may feel guilty for not being able to manage money or ashamed of their situation.

Breaking the Chains: How to Escape Economic Violence

Leaving a situation of economic violence can be a challenging process, but it is possible. Here are some steps you can follow:

1. Acknowledge the situation: Admit that you are a victim of economic violence. This is the first and most important step.
2. Seek support: Talk to a friend, family member, counselor, or therapist. You are not alone.
3. Document the evidence: Keep copies of financial documents, text messages, or emails that demonstrate the economic control.
4. Plan your exit: Develop a plan to become financially independent. This may include looking for a job, saving money, or seeking financial assistance.
5. Seek legal advice: Consult a lawyer to learn about your rights and legal options.
6. Set boundaries: Learn to say no and defend your rights.
7. Prioritize your safety: If you feel in danger, seek shelter in a safe place.
8. Rebuild your self-esteem: Engage in activities that make you feel good about yourself and seek emotional support to heal past wounds.

Where to Seek Help and Resources for Victims of Economic Violence

There are numerous resources available to help you escape economic violence:

• Domestic violence victim assistance organizations: These organizations offer counseling, shelter, and legal support to victims of all types of violence, including economic abuse.
• Financial advisors: A financial advisor can help you manage your finances, create a budget, and plan your financial future.
• Lawyers specialized in family law: A lawyer can help you protect your rights in the event of divorce or separation.
• Support groups: Joining a support group can help you connect with others who have gone through similar experiences.
• Helplines: There are helplines where you can speak with a counselor confidentially and for free.

Remember that you are not alone and that you deserve to live a life free from abuse. Economic violence is unacceptable and there is help available so you can recover your autonomy and freedom.