Test Assumptions about our children

QUESTION 1: WHAT HAPPENS IF WE DO NOT ENRICH OUR RELATIONSHIP OF TRUST WITH YOUNG PEOPLE?

It is very common during our children's upbringing to believe that we know everything that is important to face the learning process of daily life
We assume that we know what their material needs are, but we do not know their personal concerns because they are only internal
If we do not enrich our relationship of trust with them, then we will be further away than we think
Many times we intend to make them responsible for the duties and function of their own education

Young people have different priorities from adults, and even take on responsibilities less strictly; both studies and frequent recreational activities are part of their daily lives
Youth is a stage that we are already going through, from a certain distance we try to accommodate their lives and even take sides in their choices for a better way

The part that usually gets out of control is when, in order to achieve our will, we ignore their own preociptions about where they want to go in life
We fall into the error of unconsciously using our frustrations for them to overcome them or to turn into reality what we could not accomplish
Each person has a vision that over time consolidates into identity profiles where he or she wishes to be fulfilled, whether in professional or personal aspects
As parents, if the priority is to educate young people who are independent and capable of making decisions, the best option is to support them in their own expectations and avoid imposing a vocational pattern on them

During the training process of an adolescent, it becomes a habit to declare what is right and what is wrong, for this purpose we tend to erroneously use an imposing methodology with the purpose of f
Depending on the type of relationship we build with our children, we have the responsibility to be taken into account or not depending on how we address them
Youth is characterized as the stage of development of intelligence and rational thinking
We are faced with the challenge of helping them to differentiate the intensionality of actions and their impact over time

A good deed brings benefits back, and a bad deed brings consequences
Young people do not have to know everything, so in a persuasive and didactic way we seek to stimulate their level of self-determination, being them the ones who manage to obtain their criteria on an action

Emotional independence is an important factor in every human being
Although many find it difficult to understand this valuable characteristic, it is essential to help our children develop their personalities while projecting their aspirations
Young people who are emotionally dependent on their parents tend to limit themselves to issuing personal criteria in the expectation of external approval or validation
It is also good that they are disobedient in some matters, set their own rules to be followed, and enjoy the benefit of their own decisions; it is a sign that they are in search of their own pro

It is often uncomfortable when we are compared to other people, especially siblings or friends
The unequal apprehension of our children's skills and abilities is something that can allow them to recognize their own limitations
It is detrimental to the emotional health of people in training, such as young people, to make them feel inferior to those around them, in order for them to make an effort in their studies or to make them feel that they are not as good as their peers
None of the above

We want our children to be like us, but how can we achieve this without imposing it?
The first way to convince our children is by setting an example so that they can identify us as a good role model
Most of the time we don't have control over situations with our young people, or we don't know how to reach them intelligently
Young people notice if we are consistent as we want them to be, they constantly evaluate us as parents, and they can become our harshest critics