Assumptions about our children

It is very common during our children's upbringing to believe that we know everything that is important for them to face the learning process of daily life.

We assume that we know what their material needs are, but we do not know their personal concerns because they are only internal. If we do not enrich our relationship of trust with them, then we will be further away than we think. Many times we intend to make them responsible for duties in terms of their own education. But to what extent are we serving their interests?

Young people have different priorities than adults, and even take on responsibilities less strictly; both studies and frequent recreational activities are part of their learning. Youth is a stage that we are already going through, from a certain distance we try to accommodate their lives and even take sides in their choices for a better way.

Expectations about our children.

It is natural to create expectations on our children about how they should be or how we would like them to be. The part that often gets out of control is when, in order to achieve our will, we ignore their own concerns about where they want to go in life. We fall into the error of unconsciously using our frustrations for them to overcome them or make real what we could not accomplish.

Each person has a vision that over time consolidates into identity profiles where they want to be fulfilled, whether in professional or personal aspects. As parents, if the priority is to educate independent young people capable of making decisions, the best option is to support them in their own expectations, avoiding imposing a vocational pattern on them.

Right and wrong.

During the formation process of an adolescent, it turns out to be a habit to declare what is right and what is wrong, for this we tend to erroneously use an imposing methodology with the purpose of encouraging obedience. Are parents repressive agents or can we become their advisors?

Depending on the type of relationship we build with our children, we have the responsibility to be taken into account or not depending on how we address them. Youth is characterized as the stage of development of intelligence and rational thinking. We are faced with the challenge of helping them to differentiate the intentionality of actions and their repercussion through time. A good action brings benefits in return, and a bad action brings consequences. Young people do not have to know everything, so in a persuasive and didactic way we seek to stimulate their level of self-determination, being them the ones who manage to obtain their criteria about a correct attitude.

Emotional independence.

Emotional independence is an important factor in every human being. Although many find it difficult to understand this valuable characteristic, it is fundamental to help our children develop their personality while projecting their aspirations.

Young people who are emotionally dependent on their parents tend to limit themselves to issuing personal criteria in the hope of obtaining external approval or validation. It is also good that they are disobedient in some matters, set their own rules to comply with, and enjoy the benefit of their own decisions; it is a sign that they are in search of their own identity.

Establishing comparisons.

It is often uncomfortable when we are compared to other people, especially siblings or friends. Our children's unequal apprehension of sk