Inner Beliefs and Judgment of Others

Personality is a set of beliefs and values that shape our perception of and reactions to life.

These beliefs are the result of upbringing, social conditioning and lived experiences.

Through them, we create an idea of what is true and what is not, which influences the way we relate to others.

For example, while for some people it is normal to eat with their hands, for others it may be inappropriate behavior, and these differences in perception are the origin of our judgments.

Beliefs as the basis for judgment and rejection

We tend to cling to belief systems that validate our identity and make us feel that we are right.

To strengthen that feeling, we seek the company of like-minded people, which reduces our feelings of insecurity.

However, this search for validation often leads to polarization, where we convince ourselves that those who think differently are wrong.

It is not that others are better or worse, but that this mentality makes us intolerant and prevents us from having constructive discussions that are open to other ideas.

Polarization and its consequences

In society, we often rank people based on what they believe rather than the quality of their ideas.

This can lead to unfortunate situations, such as rejecting someone professionally just because of their opinions, the way they dress or their social status.

For example, a person who values professional success above all else might look down on someone who prioritizes work-life balance.

However, beliefs are nothing more than ideas and judgments that we have internalized; they are not absolute truths.

Letting go of judgment to grow

The root of the problem is that we often confuse our opinions with facts, and when someone questions them, we take it as a personal attack.

This is because we have tied our personal value to our beliefs.

To let go of that mentality, we must stop judging others by what they believe and instead focus on their personality traits.

The important thing is to ask ourselves if the person is aggressive, intolerant or if, on the contrary, they are empathetic and open to dialogue.

A relationship in which you can disagree without being disagreeable is the best environment in which to learn and grow.

If we are quick to judge others, we are actually defining ourselves as judgmental.

Summary

Our personality is a set of beliefs and values that influence how we relate to others. These beliefs come from upbringing, social conditioning and lived experiences. We cling to them to feel we are right and to validate our identity.

Looking for people who share our beliefs can lead to polarization. We become intolerant, judge people based on what they believe and refuse to have constructive discussions with those who think differently.

The key is to stop judging others for their beliefs and instead focus on their personality traits. A relationship where you can disagree without being disagreeable is the best environment in which to learn and grow.