Understanding your learned communication patterns

The Origin of Our Habits: The Influence of the Family Environment.

Our way of communicating does not come out of nowhere; it is, to a large extent, learned behavior during our formative years.

In order to truly understand our current patterns, it is essential to engage in an exercise of introspection and ask ourselves: what is the communication style I learned in my childhood?

This reflection involves analyzing how our parents communicated with each other, how they communicated with us, and what the family communication dynamics were like at social gatherings.

It is also revealing to observe how we communicate today with our parents and siblings, as we often repeat those same learned patterns.

Becoming aware of this "inherited communicative style" is the first and most crucial step in order to identify areas for improvement and begin to transform the way we interact with the world.

The Space for Expression: Were You Listened to in Your Childhood?

One of the most crucial experiences for the development of our communication skills is whether, during childhood, we were given a safe space to express ourselves.

It is essential to ask ourselves: when I was a child, did I have a place to speak, to say what I felt and thought? Did I feel listened to?

Or, on the contrary, did I feel that I was not being listened to, that my opinions were not being taken into account and that I lacked that vital space for self-expression?

The existence or absence of this active listening environment in our early years has a profound and lasting impact on our confidence and ability to communicate openly and confidently in adulthood.

The Echo of the Past in the Present: From Lack to Complaint

The communicative shortcomings of childhood often resonate in our adult interactions.

If during our early years we did not have that space to be heard and to freely express our feelings, it is very likely that today we encounter recurring difficulties and frustrations when communicating.

Common complaints such as "nobody understands me" or "they don't listen to me" are not always an exclusive reflection of the current situation, but may be the echo of a need that was not satisfied in the past.

Understanding that these demands may have their origin in our personal history allows us to address them from a