Sensory Focusing II

Genital inclusion without performance demands

Only when the partner feels comfortable and free of anxiety in the first phase does one advance to Sensory Focusing II. In this stage, the prohibition on touching genitals and breasts is lifted.

Now, body exploration includes the whole body. However, the prohibition of intercourse and the rule of not attempting to force arousal or orgasm are maintained.

The crucial change here is that genital contact is allowed, but with an exploratory, not a stimulatory, mentality.

It is not about "massaging to arouse," but touching the genitals to feel textures, temperatures and shapes, integrating them as another part of the body that deserves affective, not just functional, attention.

This helps to de-genitalize anxiety, normalizing contact in these areas without the urgency of an immediate erectile or lubricating response.

Exploration of pleasure without pressure to climax.

In this phase, it is common for physical arousal (erections, lubrication) to emerge as a natural response to touch.

Therapeutic instruction is to observe these responses calmly, without doing anything with them. If there is an erection, fine; if it is lost, also fine.

The partner is taught to "surf" the waves of arousal without feeling the need to bring them to a denouement.

If anxiety reappears when touching the genitals, the partner should have the permission and the tool to go back to the previous phase (touching non-genital areas) until calm returns.

This back-and-forth teaches control and reduces fear, demonstrating that arousal is a fluctuating and recoverable process, not an all-or-nothing event that is lost forever if interrupted.

Identification and mapping of erogenous zones.

Sensory Focusing II is the laboratory where the couple discovers the specificity of each other's pleasure.

They are encouraged to vary the type of stimulation: gentle rubbing, firm pressure, rhythmic caresses, etc.

It is the moment to discover that perhaps one is more aroused by rubbing on the inner thigh than by direct contact on the glans or clitoris, or that the sensitivity of the nipples varies according to the moment. This detailed mapping expands the partner's erotic repertoire.

By learning which stimuli generate pleasure and which are neutral or uncomfortable,