Educating with firmness

Spending time building respect and trust in our children is worth it.

Educating with firmness, contrary to popular belief, does not take into account repression, obligation or fear, but just that: firmness. Being able to not transgress limits or maintain consistency between what you say and what you do, that's what being a good parent is all about!

In this video we will share the characteristics of this educational style and the role that you should follow as a parent that requires attention and dedication to this process.

Power.

It is important to distinguish between authority and power. While power is based on fear and subordination, authority is based on respect. However, sometimes we believe that having authority means doing whatever we want.

This can lead to arguments with your children in which they question your command. That's when the famous authoritarian response comes in: "I'm the mother and I have the right to tell them what to do and what not to do".

Authority.

Authority, seen from a negative point of view, is that which uses power to command, ignoring human needs. An example of this is when we say: "I don't care if you don't want to. You have to obey me.

Being authoritarian, in this sense, makes you believe that you have the right to direct your children's lives. However, in doing so, you are ignoring the fact that your decisions also have repercussions in the family nucleus.

Authority and firmness.

In contrast to the negative authority mentioned above, favorable or positive authority refers to influencing without imposing. So, is it possible to have authority without a strict regime to obey?

Indeed, parents who develop a firm educational style can achieve authority without imposing an overly rigid set of rules. A firm upbringing results in flexible rules to abide by.

Firm educational style.

To establish a firm educational style, it is important that:

• Your child feels that he or she can express his or her opinion in the family environment.

If you need help with housekeeping, talk to your child and ask for his or her cooperation:

• "I work every day, do you think you could help me on weekends?"

• Use his response to focus the conversation toward the area in which you need help.

• Express to you in a direct way whether you want your children to help you more actively with household chores. For example, "You need to help me with household chores, such as taking out the trash."

• Explain why. Often, we take rules for granted, but in reality there may be some doubt or unce