Guidelines for conducting feedback

Within the communicative processes that we engage in with people close to us, and mainly our children, one of the most effective is feedback.

This practice allows us to have an immediate response from the medium of interaction, providing us with information about our influence on others and the inverse effect on ourselves.

Our children, being the highest priority people in our lives, are the first ones who need to know and apply this tool for a better interpersonal dialogue in the future. The main goal of feedback lies in achieving a communication in which no generational barriers are imposed. Sustaining emotional bonds between parents and children is vital to cultivate mutual trust and practice empathy.

Relationship of equals.

We always wonder why we should know this communication tool, because feedback is not only about saying the mistakes, compliments or things that bother us, but also knowing how to say it. To implement it effectively with our children, we need to be aware of a dialogue between equals.

In this way, communication without hiding information will be perceived by the young person. At formative ages, mainly in adolescence, children see in their parents a body of authority to which they must obey and respect. If we approach them in order to gain their trust, we must show them that we are not an authority, but the person with whom they can raise their concerns and doubts.

Positive and negative.

Any communicative process with young people should be as open as possible, and for this, during feedback we expose both positive and negative aspects. We need to know what is uncomfortable for our children in our behavior towards them, and how we can solve it.

It's not all about using the moment to bring up behavioral problems, but also about knowing how to praise their positive actions. When we focus on recognizing their merits, we help them to strengthen their emotionality and self-esteem, giving them the possibility to avoid the fear of error. For other purposes, negative elements are always best approached as goals to work on in order to improve.

Choose the moment.

Feedback is not timely at all times. We must be able to choose the occasion that can be most advantageous for young people; take advantage of a walk, or a recreational sport. The first thing to choose the moment is to have information to share, so that the topic of conversation is interesting. It is advisable to have a private space for exchange, facilitating a comfortable environment for both without the influence of external pressure.

When we do not choose the right moment for the conversation, we run the risk of damaging their self-esteem in front of other people. Making them feel judged can have unfavorable consequences for their attitude towards their interpersonal and family relationships.

Watch your attitude.

It is logical that, the attitude when we address our children should be the best; a positive and enthusiastic character can achieve more than an imposing and hierarchical attitude. It is important to respect the opinions that young people give us; a wrong attitude on our part can generate disagreement or rebellion, and even prevent clear thoughts and feelings from coming into play. If we are upset and address them with anger or bad humor, they will end up distancing themselves, thus ignoring the essential message.

Time with your children.

It is always important, in order to achieve better feedback,