Guilt

Negative actions have a significant impact on the emotional health of children, adolescents and young adults. Excessive or inappropriate blaming or scolding can affect self-esteem and confidence, making them feel judged or rejected.

To avoid this, it is necessary to understand the difference between blaming and scolding. Blaming involves assigning responsibility for a mistake or problem to someone else, while scolding involves correcting inappropriate behavior. By keeping the above in mind, we can lay the foundation for a successful education.

Stress.

Exposure to situations that provoke negative emotions can increase levels of cortisol, a hormone associated with stress. As a result, we may experience aggressive behavior or constant fear in the face of stimuli that would not normally affect us.

Even small events, such as a pencil breaking or not receiving attention at a specific time, can provoke disproportionate reactions. Under stress, the prefrontal cortex, which is in charge of cognitive functions, is deactivated and emotions take over. This affects our ability to make conscious decisions and plan for the future.

Instead of reflecting and thinking critically, we become vulnerable to whatever happens around us, regardless of whether there are real risks in the environment or not.

Emotional responses.

Suppose you hear a crash in the kitchen and rush over there fearing the worst. Indeed, your child has just smashed your prized collection of dishes. Without a word, he senses your emotions and his brain activates the amygdala, the brain's emotional processing center.

The amygdala evaluates questions related to survival: Is my mother angry? Will she try to hurt me? How will it affect me? Should I run away or respond aggressively?

Seeing your collection on the floor, your first reaction was to verbally assault your child with hurtful words. But is it fair to say things like "I regret the day I brought you into the world"? Are we aware of the impact these situations can have?

At one point in time it may seem justified to vent, but we should not resort to this reaction on a regular basis. For both our sakes, it is better to take a moment to regain our composure and then act.

The mistake.

Our culture and society influence how we perceive and respond to mistakes. We are often taught that making a mistake is a bad thing and that we should blame others instead of taking responsibility, accepting and learning.

Some effective strategies to avoid the use of blame in our children's education is to encourage open and honest communication. We can also teach them to accept small failures and p