Stubbornness

We often face the challenge of dealing with stubborn children.

When we ask them to do something, they respond with stubbornness and inflexibility, which leads us to despair.

How do we set limits when they insist on maintaining the wrong attitude? How do we get them to listen to us? If you have doubts about what measures to take to lead stubbornness to more profitable ends.

Follow us: We will provide you with a list of characteristics and ways to handle this situation.

Stubbornness or tenacity.

Perseverance is demonstrated by committing to a goal and devoting all effort and energy to reach one's full potential. A child interested in dancing will want to learn new steps to adapt them to his or her style.

When you have marked traits of stubbornness you keep doing the same thing over and over again, expecting to get different results. Stubborn children may have tantrums or use blackmail to get attention, hoping that eventually it will work.

Characteristics.

Among the defining characteristics of children with advanced stubbornness are:

• They talk back and question everything.

• They demand constant attention and have frequent tantrums when they don't get what they want.

• They seem to be independent and want to do things their own way without listening to the opinion of others.

• They like to repeat the same actions, especially if you call attention to them.

Use your child's experience.

One way to handle stubbornness in a young child is to draw on his previous experiences to guide his behavior. For example, you can tell him:

• f you keep hitting the cart, it's going to break like the others. do you want it to break? what will happen if it breaks?

Then if the answer is, "I'll run out of toys," you can move on to the final consequences:

• What happens when you run out of toys? You'll be bored out of your mind, right? Is that what you want?

For an adolescent, it may be more beneficial to acknowledge his or her degree, albeit limited, of autonomy. Therefore, praising his progress toward maturity and providing support and reassurance will always be important.

Instead of reprimanding him, it is better to talk to him about the achievements he has already made on his own, such as making new friends or studying for an exam. This way you enhance his identity and self-confidence.

Types of explanations.

We have several ways of explaining consequences so that they are properly understood by a "stubborn" child.

Consequence-based explanation focuses on the cause and effect of things:

• "you get this because you did that".

• Moral explanation relates to what is right or wrong: "Don't do that, it's wrong."

• Operational explanations focus on how things work and why.

Consequences.

Allowing them to take consequences is another good strategy for dealing with stubbornness.

Explain, "If you don't help me do my homework, I won't help you later to talk to your father to let you out."

Clarify, "You will have missed the opportunity to go out and enjoy the evening with your friends."

Emphasize: "It will be your responsibility alone and you must take the consequences. It is sad that by not helping