Applying the tfar to goal setting

The Mistake of Planning Only Actions for an Outcome

When we set a goal, most of us focus on the action plan. We list the tasks (A) that we think will get us to the desired outcome (R).

This approach, while necessary, is incomplete and often leads to abandonment.

Include in your planning: How do I need to feel? What thoughts do I need to cultivate?

Much more effective goal planning should include all four elements of the TFAR model.

In addition to defining the actions, we need to ask ourselves: In order to consistently perform these actions, how do I need to feel (F)? And in order to feel that way, what kinds of thoughts (T) do I need to cultivate, and which ones do I need to let go of?

The Bored Reader vs. Enthusiastic Reader Example

Let's go back to the reading-one-chapter-a-day example. If we only focus on action, but our thoughts are ''reading is a must'' and our feelings are boredom, we will fail.

An effective plan would include strategies to change the T and the F. For example, choosing books on topics I am passionate about (change the T to ''this is interesting'') to generate a feeling (F) of curiosity and enjoyment, which will greatly facilitate taking action (A).

The need to become the person (with the right thoughts and emotions) who can achieve the goal

Ultimately, achieving a goal is not just about ''doing'' things. It's about ''becoming'' the person who can achieve that goal.

A person who wants to be fit doesn't just ''go to the gym.'' It is a person who thinks of themselves as active and healthy, and who finds satisfaction in taking care of their body.

Aligning our thoughts and feelings with our goals is the key to making actions flow naturally and sustainably.

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