Managing the social environment: changing the people around you

The maxim: ''You can't change people, but you can change people''

When managing our social environment, we must start from a fundamental maxim.

It is very difficult, if not impossible, to change another person's personality or attitude if they do not want to change.

However, we do have the power to choose who we spend our time with. We cannot change people, but we can change people.

Why trying to change others is often counterproductive

Trying to change others is a sure source of frustration. It generates resistance in the other person and wears us down.

The best way to influence others is through our own example, not through criticism or insistence.

Strategies: Limiting Exposure to Negative Influences

If we have people in our circle whose influence is negative for us (and we cannot or do not want to cut the relationship completely), an effective strategy is to limit exposure.

We can reduce the frequency or duration of our encounters. And we can also set clear boundaries about what we talk about, avoiding loops of complaining or negativity.

Actively seek out communities and groups that align with your emotional goals

At the same time, we must be proactive in seeking out positive social environments.

Today, thanks to the internet and group activities, it's easier than ever to find communities of people with similar interests and values.

Joining a club, class, or volunteer group can be a great way to build a new, nurturing social circle.

Summary

A powerful truth in relationships is that we can't change other people, but we can choose who we associate with. It's more effect