What is not a conversation? common mistakes

Talking Too Much Without Leaving Space (Chatterboxing)

To learn to communicate better, we must first identify common mistakes.

Often, we think we are having a conversation when we are not. It is not a conversation when we talk too much.

If we act like chatterboxes and don't leave space for others, there is no dialogue, but a monologue.

Taking the Other's Point of View for Granted

We are also not having a conversation when we take the other's point of view for granted without allowing them to present their arguments.

Real conversation requires curiosity. Accusing or cornering our interlocutor with arguments turns dialogue into a debate or an attack.

Accusing or Cornering with Arguments

The goal stops being understanding each other and becomes winning. Another common mistake is asking for advice after making a decision, seeking only validation.

Hint and intimidating tone

Using hints instead of expressing yourself clearly creates confusion and mistrust. Finally, raising your voice or appearing intimidating is the opposite of engaging in conversation.

Genuine communication requires a space of safety and respect.

Summary

Effective communication begins by avoiding excessive talking without listening. When we monopolize the conversation, there is no real dialogue, but rather a monologue that excludes the other person.

Another common mistake is assuming what the other person thinks without letting them express themselves. True conversation is born from curiosity and respect, not from imposing or debating to win.

We must also avoid using hints or intimidating tones. These attitudes destroy trust. Speaking clearly, with respect and openness is key to building genuine communication.