Distinguishing genuine positivity from toxic positivity

In the search for well-being, it is crucial to differentiate between genuine positivity, which integrates the full emotional reality, and toxic positivity, which denies or invalidates difficult emotions, forcing unhealthy suppression.

Definition of Toxic Positivity

Toxic positivity is characterized by an attempt to deny, minimize or invalidate negative emotions, both in oneself and in others.

It manifests itself in the pressure to "be positive" at all times, suggesting that emotions such as sadness, anxiety or frustration should not exist or that, with sufficient effort, they can be eliminated altogether.

This approach is not only unrealistic. It can also be detrimental, as it prevents the healthy processing of difficult emotional experiences.

Phrases such as "everything happens for a reason", "don't stress" or "there are people who have it worse" are often examples of this attitude, which, although well-intentioned, can make the person feel misunderstood or guilty for feeling the way they do.

Genuine and Authentic Positivity

Genuine positivity, in contrast, involves making room for both the reality of difficult emotions and for hope.

It honors all emotions, recognizing that they are valid and are part of the human experience. It does not deny the reality of suffering.

Rather, it seeks to integrate it and find constructive ways to deal with it. This perspective is based on acceptance and understanding, not on judgment or discomfort in the face of another's or one's own discomfort.

It is a learnable skill and mindset that energizes, rather than depletes.

The Role of Difficult Emotions

Difficult emotions, such a