Mental and emotional flexibility under stress

Research shows that resilient people are characterized by remarkable flexibility, both cognitive and emotional, which is manifested in the way they react and adapt to stress and difficulties.

This ability to adjust is crucial to overcoming life's challenges constructively.

Acceptance of Reality

A first component of this flexibility is the acceptance of reality, however difficult it may be. This does not imply passive resignation.

But to recognize the circumstances as they are, especially those that cannot be changed.

For example, when faced with a traffic jam, accepting the fact that you are stuck is the first step in reducing frustration.

Avoiding denial or fighting against the unchangeable allows you to conserve energy to focus on what you can manage.

Positive Reappraisal and Meaningfulness

Cognitive flexibility also includes the ability to perform "positive reappraisal".

That is, to find constructive meaning even in negative or unsuccessful situations.

An example of this is the story of a mother who, while in prison during World War II, managed to reinterpret her adverse situation as an opportunity to learn a new language, thus finding a positive aspect in the midst of difficulty.

Learning from mistakes, viewing them as "first attempts at learning" (FAIL), is another form of positive re-evaluation that fosters resilience.

The Role of Gratitude and Humor

Cultivating gratitude, even in difficult times, is another manifestation of emotional flexibility.

Appreciating the good things you have, despite problems, helps you maintain a balanced perspective.

Humor is also a powerful tool; the ability to find the humorous side of situations or to laugh at oneself can relieve stress and facilitate coping.

Mindfulness and Supportive Therapies

The practice of mindfulness, which involves being intentionally and non-judgmentally present in the moment, contributes significantly to emotional and cognitive flexibility.

It helps to observe thoughts and emotions without overreacting to them.

In addition, certain psychological therapies, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), are effective in developing these skills.

CBT helps people reinterpret situations more realistically and change negative thought patterns, while ACT encourages acceptance of difficult experiences and commitment to actions aligned with personal values.