Introduction to self-compassion
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Self-compassion is a way of relating to oneself that involves offering understanding, kindness, and support in times of difficulty, failure, or suffering, rather than resorting to harsh self-criticism or judgment.
It involves extending the same compassion to oneself that one would offer to a good friend in a similar situation.
Dr. Kristin Neff is one of the pioneering researchers who has popularized and studied this construct. Unlike self-esteem, which is an assessment of one's own worth (which can fluctuate or depend on achievements), self-compassion is not based on self-eva luation, but on an acceptance of one's own humanity and vulnerability.
It is not about feeling sorry for oneself or being self-indulgent in the sense of evading responsibility, but rather about acknowledging one's own suffering with an attitude of caring.
Self-compassion is made up of three main elements:
- Self-kindness: Being gentle and understanding with yourself rather than harshly critical.
- Common Humanity: Recognizing that suffering, imperfection, and failure are part of the shared human experience, rather than feeling isolated by your own difficulties.
- Mindfulnes
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