Phase 1: Perverse Seduction and [Love Bombing].

The deployment of strategic idealization.

According to clinical studies, the relationship with a perverse or narcissistic profile does not begin with abuse, but with an initial phase known as "perverse seduction" or, in more current terms, Love Bombing.

During this stage, the victim is overwhelmed by inordinate attention, gifts, constant flattery and accelerated promises of an idyllic future.

The aggressor deploys all his or her weapons of charm to become the "soul mate" the other person has always hoped for, mimicking his or her tastes and desires.

This is not a genuine and slow infatuation, but a theatrical and intense staging whose objective is not to love, but to hook.

By saturating the victim with validation, a massive release of dopamine and oxytocin is triggered in her brain, generating a biochemical addiction and blind trust that deactivates her natural protective barriers.

The study of vulnerabilities

Behind this curtain of romantic perfection, the aggressor is performing emotional espionage work.

This seduction phase has an instrumental function: to discover the victim's weaknesses, insecurities and past wounds in order to know exactly where to strike next.

The pervert listens attentively not to understand, but to store information.

In addition, this exploration often extends to the immediate environment; the perpetrator analyzes the partner's family and friends, seeking to win their approval or identify cracks in order to gain ground and dominance over the victim's social context.

The ultimate goal is to establish a position of power and control before showing his true face, ensuring that, when the violence comes, the victim is too emotionally compromised to flee.

The creation of debt and dependency

The fundamental trap of this stage lies in the creation of an implicit emotional debt.

The aggressor, through his grandiose gestures, seeks to establish a relationship of dependency in which the victim feels that she "owes" him something for being so wonderful.

The idea is fostered that they have found a unique and predestined connection, which subtly isolates the partner from external reality, since "no one else would understand".

This phase sets the stage for future helplessness: when the abuse begins, the victim will remember this golden stage and, confused, will think that the aggressive behavior is an anomaly or their fault, spending the rest of the relationship trying to recover that idealized person who, in reality, never existed beyond the mask.

Summary

The relationship does not start with violence, but with "love bombing": a theatrical staging of excessive attention designed to generate a biochemical addiction and hook the victim.

Under this mask of perfection, the aggressor performs instrumental emotional spying, listening carefully to detect weaknesses, insecurities and wounds that he will later use as weapons to ensure his absolute control.

This stage creates an emotional debt and a dependency that isolates the partner. The victim idealizes this period, which will prevent her from identifying future abuse as the true reality.