The 3-Step Process

The Practical Path to Re-Parenting

Re-parenting theory is put into practice through a very clear process of three fundamental steps.

These steps, when applied consistently, will allow you to heal your relationship with your inner child and reduce anxiety.

These are not complex actions, but rather a conscious commitment to your own emotional well-being and inner healing.

Step 1. Ongoing Dialogue Through Journaling

The first step is to establish and maintain regular written conversations between your inner child and your Loving Parent.

You must use the two-handed technique in your journal to allow this slow but intentional conversation to flow.

How often you maintain this dialogue is up to you; It can be daily or a couple of times a week.

The important thing is consistency and the commitment to creating a safe space for these two parts of you to communicate.

Step 2. Honor the Messages to Build Trust

The second step is absolutely vital: you must honor the messages from your inner child and act on them.

Dialogue alone is not enough; if your inner child asks for something, the next logical step is to take action.

If it asks for more play, you must incorporate more play into your life; If your child asks for a break, you must give it to him.

This act of responding to his needs with actions is what builds true and solid inner trust.

If you break the promises you make to your inner child, he will react with tantrums and sabotage your efforts.

Step 3. Play More as an Emotional Need

The third step is to understand that play is not a luxury you can afford, but a basic emotional need.

Many adults neglect our inner child by filling our lives only with constant work and responsibilities.

This lack of space for joy and spontaneity is one of the causes that increase our anxiety levels.

As Dr. Stuart Brown said, the opposite of play is not work, but depression and also anxiety.

You must rearrange your priorities so that there is regular space in your schedule for fun and pleasure.

An Integrative Process for Healing

These three steps (dialogue, honor, and play) are not isolated actions, but form an integrative and continuous process.