Overcoming Fear of Giving Feedback

Giving feedback can be a source of stress, even for experienced professionals, because of the fear of conflict, choosing the wrong words, or hurting the other person's feelings.

These fears are often linked to internal blocks that, once identified, can be overcome to give feedback with greater confidence.

It is important to recognize that these fears are natural, but they can paralyze you and prevent others from having the opportunity to grow and improve.

Identifying internal blocks

To overcome the fear of giving feedback, it is essential to recognize the internal blocks that prevent you from giving feedback.

First, recognize your fears: ask yourself if you are afraid of the other person's reaction, of conflict, or of being judged as "too critical".

For example, you might reflect, "I'm afraid that if I give this feedback, the person will get angry and our relationship will become strained."

Strategies for gaining trust

Once you have identified your fears, you need to reframe the situation in your mind.

Instead of thinking that you are going to "hurt someone," remind yourself that your feedback is meant to help and encourage growth.

The key is to focus on the purpose of the feedback (development) and not on personal criticism.

You must also accept imperfection: your feedback will not always be received as you expect, and that's okay.

What matters is that your intention is respectful and constructive.

To gain confidence, prepare in advance by structuring your feedback with methods such as STAR to be clear and factual, which reduces anxiety.

Also, practice regularly by starting with positive feedback in less stressful situations before addressing more sensitive issues.

The responsibility of giving feedback

Giving feedback is an act of responsibility and courage.

Often, people avoid giving feedback, but if we don't, we not only deny the other person an opportunity to improve, but we also allow a problem behavior to persist, which can affect the team as a whole.

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